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Pregnant teen

Discussion in 'Supply teaching' started by jmntsp, Nov 30, 2011.

  1. jmntsp

    jmntsp New commenter

    Help, folks! I need some advice, please. I am on long term supply in a school where I've been on and off for the past three years (generally picking up 2 or 3 days a week) so most of the kids know me really well and I have good and established relationships with a lot of pupils (just to give a bit of background history). Anyway.....earlier in the week one of my Y11 girls (+ her friend) came to see me and she began the conversation with 'if I tell you something you won't have to tell anyone else, will you?' I told her that if she wanted to tell me something in confidence that I would certainly not tell anyone without her permission and she said, 'I think I'm pregnant, miss'. Cut a long story short she is a week or so late, didn't use protection and is panicking. One of the things she asked was, 'would you tell my mum for me if I am?' and my response (I think) was, 'bloody hell - you don't want much do you!' Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do that without clearing it with the school first, that I was pleased she'd felt she could talk to me about it, not to panic and that the first thing to do was to take a pregnancy test to find out for definite before she did anything else. I was calm and kind and spent quite a long time with her as she was worried about what people would think/say, etc. She is going to do a test and I asked her to let me know what happened.
    Obviously I'm in a tricky position here and whilst I want to support this girl I don't know how best to do so if she gets a positive result, particularly as I'm 'on supply' rather than a permanent contract. I don't feel that I can betray her trust in me by telling SMT without her permission and had decided to suggest to her that (worst case scenario) I should speak to the head and explain to him that whilst I wouldn't tell him who it was, that I should tell him one of the senior girls had confided in me and that I was worried she would not tell her mother. I was going to suggest that if her mother made an appointment to see me with her that she could tell her mother with me there as a bit of moral support. Anyone got a better suggestion? I feel a bit caught between a rock and a hard place here.


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