This is my second marriage and I am a woman almost 50 years old. I have been married for 12 years to an extremely volatile man. He is like a lose cannon. His rages are terrifying and crazy. He was washing dishes and then ranting about being sick of washing dishes and telling me to work less so that I can do these chores more so that he doesn't have to do it. We have a dish washer but this has been out of action for a few weeks, plus I am going through the menopause so i am feeling very tired and emotional. He then threw and smashed a thick pyrex dish into the sink and smashed another dish then punched the walls and ranting and raving like a lunatic. I have put up with his behaviour but each time it makes me very ill. I am worried for myself I don't want to have a heart attack one of these days. This behaviour happens on average every few weeks, sometimes not as bad, just verbally rude and aggressive, other times he punches walls or goes nuts. The day after, he usually ignores his behaviour ever happened and simply returns to normal behaviour a few days afterwards whereas I become ill for weeks recovering from the stress of it. He only apologises when I prompt him. He refuses to see a doctor or to have any treatment. I see this as bullying behaviour and very manipulative. I am seriously now thinking he should leave the house. What advice would you give me?? I know if I read my own post I would think the answer would be obvious. (The house is mine - i bought it some time ago). He has nowhere to go and no family in this country. However, he is generally a good father and works hard so it isn't all bad. He doesn't seem to be remorseful and appears to me to be quite arrogant in his behaviour. This is the reason why I am considering ending the relationship once and for all. Any advice would be appreciated. I have done the sit down and talking bit many many times. My family have also spoken with him but nothing goes in. He just doesn't listen or want to listen as the behaviour happens again a few months later. Any advice would be appreciated.