Hi I don't mean to be rude but I am only looking for some reassurance from others who have/have had difficult babies. I have had plenty of advice from those with content/happy babies and to be honest they just don't have a clue! For those of you who have seen my other posts, my LO is 7 months now and has been exceptionally difficult since birth. He screamed all day every day until he was 9 1/2 weeks, then cried most of each day until he was 4 months ish and since then has pretty much cried/whinged most of each day. Out of 7 days a week I would say that he whinges/cries for most of 4 or 5 days. He was diagnosed with colic, silent reflux etc but none of the medication worked and as he had happy periods some days, we deduced that he was just frustrated and this was why he whinged so much and that it wasn't a medical issue at all. Our HV describes him as a very difficult and unsettled baby and he continues to be so. Don't get me wrong he is soooooo much better than he was and things that I/we have influence over such as a good routine, eating well, drinking from a cup, socialising him etc, I think that we have come a long long way, but he is still such an unhappy chap for 75% of the time. When he is in a cheery mood he is so engaging/smiling/happy, he reaches out for people, kisses them etc but ths time is so short lived and it's killing me. On many days nothing seems to make him happy, he might have 5 mins playing happily with me, or on his playmat, in his jumperoo etc and then he whinges/cries. It's not separation anxiety as he does this even if he is sitting on my/OHs knee or next to us and if he is crying on his mat/jumperoo etc he doesn't stop if we pick him up. It appears to be boredom but I try so hard to engage/stimulate him whilst also ensuring that he learns that he has to entertain himself sometimes. As he has always been so diffucult, people have said to us just wait until he's 8 weeks, 12 weeks, 5 months, can sit up by himself etc and he will be better, but as each of these milestones have come and gone and he's the same, I think people have run out of things to say to reassure us. Does anyone out there have a similar experience and can tell me that it got better at 8/9/10 months or when they started crawling/walking etc? Our HV seems to think he is highly intelligent and this is the problem, has anyone else found this? We are now 7 months in and still having no enjoyable family time. We go to friends houses with babies/without babies, BBQs, for coffee, to the park, out with the pram, to baby groups, swimming etc and he just whinges. In order to keep ourselves from getting too down, my husband and I both go to gym alternate evenings and have nights out with friends but what we really want is some fun family time. Whereas some couples who have had a baby look at couples wihout children and miss the freedom, we don't feel that at all, we look at couples with babies our age who are happy and just wish we could start to have a bit of what they've got. My Mum and Dad have seen just how hard he is (my sister's LO is 6 weeks older and very content, she only cries when tired/hungry etc.) and have offered to look after him, which I have always refused until now as I felt like I should soldier on, but I have given in and they now have him one afternoon a week so that I can do any errands/jobs/relax. Like I say am not really looking for advice as we have seriously tried everything, but reassurance from anyone in a similar situation would be fab! Sorry for the long post, but my OH and I were looking forward to these few days off together so much, we bought LO a new ball pool to put in the garden and tried to have some fun outside like every else seems to be and LO just cried. OH said he would rather be at work and I don't blame him. It makes me feels so down when my sister/friends with babies/people on here talk about enjyoying the nice weather and I just think 'how??'