So our school has a habit of throwing in meetings that are not in the diary. We have a fixed Monday night, then anything else we ‘have to attend’ said loosely as I am aware from the union that I don’t actually ‘have to’ but that’s another story. Eg promotional evenings. Anyway this week we have a meeting every night- discussing exam results, discussing intervention, discussion ks3. I have been having counselling for anxiety and also IVF tests and related sessions . These appointments are usually 5pm ish as that’s when the people work until. I’ve bascially been told at work why am I making appointments on work nights, as I should ‘expect’ to have a meeting as its work time. I get in at 7am so work the same day length as someone who gets in at 8 and leaves at 4 say. I have been asked to explain where I am going and why I am making ‘so many’ appointments. I don’t really wish to discuss my personal matters with my HOD, a man. Nor anyone else. Our bell goes at 3.30 and unless I leave at 4.15 to get to the clinic I can’t make it, but meetings run till 5. I’ve been told at least stay until then however I felt so awkward once when I did do that as everyone asked when I was going. Am I being unreasonable doing this?