So, something I have been trying to work on for several years is this idea of being 'strict' and standoffish. I have seriously been open-minded and willing at accept criticism and work on me (at times I feel I have been trying to change who I am as a person never mind as a teacher) I am now several years in to working in the same primary school and have just came from what felt like a character assassination meeting with the principal. Albeit he is totally supportive and wanting to help and pave next steps (I am so grateful for this as I know this may not be the case in many schools) I now feel I am banging my head against a brick wall. I also wonder how much is influenced by previous chat, not realizing I have changed and worked hard at it? I truly believe you can be a caring teacher without all the hugging business and honestly felt I had made headway this year, stating many times this has been a great start to the year, what an awesome 6 months. I have being expanding my behavior management knowledge (its not about using or raising your voice) speaking privately to students when needed. I have morning check ins, I could tell you about each of my students lives, push them as well as support them when they have needed it. Students come to me for help and when they need things explained. I am up to date on parent responses via email and have worked hard on 'chatting' more with parents at the end of the day, filling them in on how the day went. Any time something has happened I have held meetings with parents, both formal and informal as well as quick check ins in the corridors. I have mentioned many times I am only here for the students and parents as they need me, please use me. And yet once again have been accused of being standoffish and short. Even heard that parents are scared to approach me, eh!? me! I am more terrified of parents and yet head out every day with a smile and a wave and stood to chat about the goings on in the world. I clearly have this massive disconnect and feel a bit of a fool for being so naive. I truly care about each of my students and work my ass off, but I feel once again ****. Anyone have any experience, next steps suggestions? Am I failing students? Is it time to give up and do something else?