Sorry for such a miserable topic but I am thinking about this a lot at the moment. I understand that the natural order of things is that parents will die first (we hope anyway), I lost my mum in my teens and seemed to get over it quite quickly because she'd been very ill and I wanted things to get back to normal so pushed myself towards that because I thought that would make things okay, I don't think I ever really 'grieved' in the usual sense of the word. I'm OK now, mostly, it was a long time ago after all. But what I do feel in some ways is cheated, I wasn't even 18 when she died and she missed all the landmarks of birthdays, weddings, babies, uni, jobs, and sometimes I do just feel so alone with it all. Is this normal, and will it just be something that's forever there or does there come a point where it's 'normal' to have lost one or both parents so it's not something that saddens you? My dad is ill, and I lost all four grandparents before my mum died so it's not like I have a big extended family, I can see myself being th eonly one left and it scares me.