Hi, don't know what to do next really - seeing GP tomorrow but hoped someone might have practical experience. My Mum is in her late 80s and for some time has been in poor physical condition, including not being able to eat and being fed directly into her stomach which she has always managed herself. She also can't speak and although we can understand her we can't hear her on the phone etc.. Anyway, despite these problems she has been perfectly 'compos metus' and has managed all of this well. Last few weeks she is going downhill mentally - I am getting phone calls in the middle of the night becuase she doesn't know it's night, she is seeing and hearing people who aren't there and now she has 'forgotten' how to do her feeding and for the last 2 days I am having to go and do it for her. I saw a GP last week and Mum agreed that it may be the time to start looking at residential care 'for the future'. However, if she can't feed herself the future I feel is now. I will be back at work full time next week and can't imagine how I am going to cope. Websites say people usually recieve an assessment for care whilst in hospital - she's not in hospital though and the GP last week said this wasn't 'acute' so nurses coming in/hospital admission wouldn't be appropriate. To repeat though - don't know what to do next - can I go to care homes direct? Does she have to be assessed first and how do I sort this? Anyone with any advice about the whole system? I'd be very grateful to hear.