That sounds tough for you both. What is he worred will happen? I wonder, with an armchair psychologist hat on, if he has some unresolved fears of losing the baby having been through what you have to get her here. How does he feel about her going to a childminder/nursery on return to work (if you are)? Perhaps a chat with him about what he's afraid of and a mutual discussion about how to avoid those fears becoming reality might help?