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On having a partner with diametrically opposed political views to yours.

Discussion in 'Personal' started by Duke of York, Dec 1, 2015.

  1. Duke of York

    Duke of York Star commenter

    Would you regard that as a good thing? Ying and Yang and stuff like that. How would you cope, or indeed, how do you cope when any conversation about the news is a challenge? Are the conversations about who should the washing up more fraught than they would be in a household that holds similar political views?
  2. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    That's marriage. I pull my forelock and go " 's m'm".
    kibosh likes this.
  3. Spiritwalkerness

    Spiritwalkerness Star commenter

    It's a right ****** trying to chop vegetables/carve joints here...he's removed all the sharp implements
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  4. oldsomeman

    oldsomeman Star commenter

    my wife's comment is 'all politicians are Wa***ers'.Well they might be if men....but she listens to what is said then comes out with this statement.LOL
    As one can imagine talks on politics go down well in my house lol
    Then again she is the opinionated one in may areas .wel maybe not knitting as she listens carefully in such matters.
  5. Didactylos4

    Didactylos4 Star commenter

    I don't have such problems
  6. RedQuilt

    RedQuilt Star commenter

    Political orientation was one of the few things my ex and I had in common.
    racroesus likes this.
  7. Weald56

    Weald56 Established commenter

    I suspect it all depends on whether the rest of the relationship works - if it does, opposing views probably don't matter; if there are problems in the relationship then the differences will exacerbate these problems.
  8. jacob

    jacob Lead commenter

    I don't see how it is possible. I think political tendencies are innate in character, so opposites wouldn't work. Indifference might.
    kibosh likes this.
  9. Orkrider2

    Orkrider2 Star commenter

    When we first started going out, my husband told me that he was gonna vote BNP. I dumped him immediately and he had to work hard to convince me that it had been a joke. There are a lot of people in his group of friends from school who are very right wing and quite openly racist and homophobic (typical working class Ukippers really) and I quite often end up having rows with them when we're out. I couldn't be dealing with that in my everyday life, so while me and Mr Ork disagree on some things, we have pretty similar core values and basic morals.
    kibosh likes this.
  10. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Core values. Don't see how a long-term relationship could ever work. Not possible. Not workable.
  11. InkyP

    InkyP Star commenter

    Similar core values although he comes out with some **** sometimes.
    kibosh and Noja like this.
  12. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    I know. We share core values. Except I'm a pacifist. But that's a good thing because, being a pacifist, I'm not going to come to blows with anyone who doesn't agree with me! ;)
    kibosh likes this.
  13. Cantandmorecant

    Cantandmorecant Lead commenter

    I think a relationship would be very difficult with completely opposite views and values. It would cause too much friction.
  14. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Since I ignore (or rather 'ignore') people on TES with whom I sense I'm severely (or even moderately) at odds I can hardly imagine striking up a relationship with such a person with a view to finding lurrrrve.
  15. HelenREMfan

    HelenREMfan Star commenter

    The ex and I agreed on most things I suppose politically - he purported to hold quite extreme views but I was never convinced he was going to be any kind of "eco warrior" etc. However we were extremely divided on the subject of Israel. It wouldn't have been an issue as my attitude was not to discuss the topic but he - especially when getting quite drunk, loved nothing better than to look for a row. So I would not recommend that.
    I did quite smile at his being made to feel pretty unwelcome when we visited the women's camp at Greenham Common :)
  16. Eureka!

    Eureka! Lead commenter

    As posters can easily imagine, living with me means you come to agree with all my views. It's simply inevitable.

    ...now all I have to do is to persuade her to admit it.
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  17. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Ah, your imaginary wife, Eury? ;)
  18. Eureka!

    Eureka! Lead commenter

    Leave her out of it please Grumpy.
  19. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Well, m'dear, it was you who introduced her. Unless you were referring to the cat's mother?
  20. Eureka!

    Eureka! Lead commenter

    No, it was you actually!

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