I feel for both of you. When I read threads like this and others that come up on workplace dilemmas my stomach churns. I can't imagine anything worse that dreading going to work. You've both chosen a vocation and it's tragic that you feel this way when you should be excited about starting a new year. kstring - I presume the school was in SM when you went there. If that's the case, you are hardly responsible, are you? If Ofsted are looking at a school in SM, they are possibly harder on everyone and be really nit-picky. It's human nature. Put that behind you. This is a new year and you are ready for it. Ok, so your OH will be away for a couple of nights a week. Make these your planning/marking nights (Yes, I know you'll need more time than this but make these the only nights that you actually work at home) so that when he's at home you can spend as much time together as possible. Make this a positive thing and not something that's going to upset you. Honestly, being positive can make things seem much better. You both have three choices and you are adults so you must make this choice yourselves. Either you look for another less stressful job; look for another teaching job or grab the bull by the horns and become the best teacher in your school. I'm a great believer in listing pros and cons. When you do this and then you may find the answer. S4 your job has already made you ill. Is your health more important than teaching? Did you both choose teaching because it's the only thing you ever wanted to do? If not, then maybe you made the wrong decision. If it is then are you going to let bullies drive you out? Right S4, you're being observed on Wednesday . Think back to the best lesson you did when you were training. What did you do that was so good? What did you learn from the feedback and your reflection? What can you take with you on Wednesday? What was the worst lesson? What went wrong? What did you learn? Get some rescue remedy to help with the nerves and knock 'em dead. You can do it. Don't let the beggars get you! I send you both a big hug and hope to hear back that you are doing well.