Re O.H. I'm not sure if they can force you to go, check it out with the union. My advice is that, as I said before, their real intention is to have evidence that they have tried to support you and posssibly to label you as having mental health issues. I'd not recommend going under these circumstances unless forced to. If you do go explain to them that you now realise that the stress was caused by bullying and harrassment - put it in writing, (don't nescessarly raise a grievance), explaining a few of the many incidents which caused you distress and how cumulatively, you now realise that your reaction i.e. the symptoms of stress were a normal reaction to the abnormal treatment in the school. Do not give an inch. I'd also assume that the OH person does not have a good understanding of workplace bullying and will have been given a negative impression of you either directly or in the passing. Ask at the start of any discussion to see what they have been told. When they dismiss any suggestion of wrondoing or misstreatment, explain that it is not up to them to tell you how you feel or felt and that you now understand that the problem of bullying is misunderstood. Ask them what their understanding of 'bullying in the workplace' is. I would be very surprised if they gave you an answer that impressed you. Re mental health - Being realistic, you probably have come close to suffering 'mental injury'. The main injury suffered by targets is Post Traumatic Stress Dissorder a symptom of which is flashbacks to things you found damaging, re-living events and panic attacks. Your aim at present is to understand and avoid injury so be aware but don't focus on this aspect. Where I think you are just now I think is coming to realise you have been bullied severely, you have shown some of your cards and you now should expect more devious tactics. The natural reaction at this stage is 'hypervigilance' - like a startled rabbit in some ways. The physical symptoms are heightened awareness, eyesight improves - (if you wear glasses you might find that you don't need them to see), acute hearing - everything ready for fight or flight. If you know it might happen, you can be ready for it - it might never happen. Either way - no real problem so long as you understand its normal. A post you should read is 'Is your boss a psychopath or a narcissist' on these forums. A final thing to be ready for is a 'narcissistic rage' where the bully stages a rage suggesting that no-one likes you, that you are useless and that others are complaining about you. It is intended to create terror and self doubt and make you crumble. If you are not prepared this can cause serious damage - you are now prepared. This sort of thing is usually done in private so there are no witnesses. Its an example of 'projection - the bully puts her own percieved issuses onto their target, its usually the opposite of the truth. A brilliant 'blame' technique. Again, it might never happen but between the HT and the Mentor, it might. Bullies are very prone to unknowingly using projection and once you understand the concept, they become easier to predict. Re the rage, its up to you and obviously depends on what you can cope with at the time. Sit quietly and listen to the abuse, if you can ask for her to write down the issues she has with your performance so you can address them (she won't) or write them down yourself. Ask her to elaborate, write things down yourself - share what happens with the union. If the union is not fully on your side yet - then education is required - print out and show them some of the posts unrelated to your own situation. They need to be totally understanding of the real situation. There will be previous targets that have become victims due to lack of knowlege, but the pattern you should now be coming to understand will ring bells. Get sleep and hot baths to address the 'cold extremities' look after your health. Think positive. Re OH, the only thing that they can do to help would be to get you another post. It is possible that that could be acceptable however there are good and bad issues associated with a move. Remember, the only support you need is to be allowed to work in a 'normal' as opposed to a 'Hostile' environment. The bully will not change - training makes them more devious, anger management is inappropriate as their anger is 'staged' and to suggest that its a personality clash or breakdown in relationship is a common get-out clause the use. The breakdown is real but is a similar situation to child abuse where the breakdown is caused only by the aggressor. Happy times.