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Nobody ever looks after me as headteacher

Discussion in 'Headteachers' started by Marshall, Nov 8, 2016.

  1. Marshall

    Marshall Star commenter

    I spend so much time praising everyone. Staff seem happy, no complaints, OFSTED questionnaire 100% positive. We are a good school (on the verge of outstanding) and nobody EVER gives me praise. I hate praise where it's not due but I would really like someone, somewhere to say thank you. Am I being unreasonable?
  2. frangipani123

    frangipani123 Lead commenter

    Thank you.
    needabreak likes this.
  3. Marshall

    Marshall Star commenter

    Why are you thanking me?
  4. install

    install Star commenter

    I am not a Head, but years ago a wise Head told me to never expect praise or criticism in the work environment, and if it ever came along to think what had motivated it? And to always question it.
  5. Marshall

    Marshall Star commenter

    I agree - BUT it's just good sometimes to get a thanks or a pat on the back. I hate effusive praise:(
  6. install

    install Star commenter

    I am sorry - maybe spending time praising everyone has backfired in some way... or maybe it is worth checking others perceptions of you. Either way there must be someone you can talk to who knows how hard you have worked and your successes..
  7. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

    Do you mean the governors/your employers don't recognise your achievements? If so that is indeed a shame, just as it is for any staff lower down the hierarchy if they don't get recognition and it would indicate that your superiors might benefit from training on staff management so as to improve motivation and all the goodwill that benefits the school that go along with it.

    In many cases of public sector jobs *assuming you are in a state school, it appears that it is almost a given that if you still have a job and aren't on competence/in special measures (RI), then you are doing it right... and frankly are doing well, or at least how your line manager/management want you to do it. I'm sure they are happy that things aren't going wrong under your watch even if they don't tell you so, since it saves them no end of grief.
  8. dunnocks

    dunnocks Star commenter

    I think most people would assume you are being paid enough to look after yourself.
    install likes this.
  9. digoryvenn

    digoryvenn Lead commenter

    I agree with you Marshall; I don't receive any praise either.
    I am just constantly criticised by governors and a few members of staff. I think I am seen by them as a robot with no feelings whatsoever because every thing is all about them.
  10. cornflake

    cornflake Senior commenter

    Your CoG has a key role in ensuring your achievements are recognised.
    Govs are meant to support as well as challenge - and sometimes they need reminding of that!
  11. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    It's often hard to praise one's headteacher without looking like a terrible brown-noser. :confused:

    Could you maybe say to your staff in a staff meeting that you are having a tough time of it and would really appreciate the odd bit of praise here and there if they can manage it occasionally. Say it with a smile and a bit of humour and they might get the idea. If you are the same at work as you are on here, your staff will probably drive you mad for the next fortnight popping in to tell you all the good you do and thank you for it.
  12. 2r2e

    2r2e New commenter

    This makes no sense.
    veneris likes this.
  13. lindenlea

    lindenlea Star commenter

    Do parents never thank you, or as others have said, do governors never express appreciation. What about your fellow headteachers or your deputy. Do you ever debrief eg after a meeting and give the deputy the chance to offer you praise or at least to say that something went well even if not personally praising you.
    veneris likes this.
  14. JosieWhitehead

    JosieWhitehead Star commenter

    It's a great shame when anyone isn't thanked or praised for the work they've done for others, whatever you have done. It is only common decency to thank people, but we live in an age when a thank you isn't something people come to expect. I, too, am only thanked occasionally.
  15. Jesmond12

    Jesmond12 Star commenter

    Whilst I don't go out of my way looking for praise I know that I am appreciated when staff ask how I am feeling and bring me cups of coffee. Its the little acts of kindness that you really appreciate.
    Marshall and install like this.
  16. digoryvenn

    digoryvenn Lead commenter

    In my school, staff see the headteacher as someone to moan to and moan about; someone who has no feelings. Some members of staff are only concerned with their own feelings and their own agenda which doesn't include thanking others or appreciating everything you do.

    I personally think asking for praise makes it then seems meaningless.
  17. Skeoch

    Skeoch Star commenter

    Long, long ago my housemaster at school had a note above his desk:
    "When I am right no-one remembers. When I am wrong no-one forgets."
  18. clawthorpegirl

    clawthorpegirl New commenter

    Agree with earlier posts but feel sad / concerned that neither your DHT or COG ever say well done! I say it often & sincerely to my HT
    alexanderosman likes this.
  19. R13

    R13 Occasional commenter

    You describe a succesful school - that must give you pleasure and pride . . . who did you want to say thank you . . . . those volunteer Governors who sit in meetings with you that you are paid to attend and they are not

    When your staff are happy - that's what you must enjoy as thanks

    When your OFSTED questionairre is 100% positive that IS thanks

    You have to enjoy such things . . . . or there is nothing else
    Laughing Gravy likes this.
  20. jago123

    jago123 Established commenter

    Who are you expecting a 'thank you' from? You are the Headteacher, you are the manager. You should be thanking your staff (which you do). You should be getting the gratification that you KNOW you are a great leader, the school is successful. Is this not enough?

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