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New school/Stress/Help

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Beth-Beth, Sep 17, 2019.

  1. Beth-Beth

    Beth-Beth New commenter

    Hi everyone,

    First time poster here looking for some advice please.
    I am an FS teacher and have been for 10 years now at a school I loved. An opportunity came up at a local school for FS lead in the summer and went for it ans got the job. Initally the school were very up for change and basically wanted me to come in and change it to more child led and better continuous provision etc
    I spent most of the summer setting up my classroom and getting to know the other fs teacher all seemed well. However since the children started 3 weeks ago , it has rapidly gone down hill. They are very young, some with significant behvaiour issues, we have had 3 serious injures (1 for example a child had used a log to knock another child on the head and the child was knocked out completely) I have brought this up with slt who said they have no money for the extra staff that i have asked for. We have 4 adults to 60 children which i know is normal but i think given the needs of the cohort we should have more staff.
    This combined with working a lot more hours (the directed hours we are working is over what a teacher should be contracted to) plus 2 meetings and 1 briefing a week. I also get 'homework' to do for middle leaders meetings. I'm being given jobs to do without having any leadership time and I am using ppa time for such jobs which means i am behind on other things i need to do as a normal teacher.
    It has all become a bit much in a short space of time. I know the school is not for me, i believe nothing will change and plan to resign october to be released for janurary. I have been having anxiety attacks and feel miserabl, not eating and even some days wishing i was in acar accident just so i dont have to go to work. My doctor said she will sign me off sick but i am worried. Worried about the children at school.Worried about how it will look to my new employers (i know i plan to leave but still feel guilty). Worried about getting a reference when i get a new job in the future. I have been in contact with my old heas to seek advice and she has offered me a job back in year 1 (so a different year group) but just unsure of what to do on all levels really. I dont feel like myself and i hate it.
    Has anyone been in this position and can anyone offer advice?
    Thanks for listening
  2. JohnJCazorla

    JohnJCazorla Star commenter

    Too much 'worried', as someone who has suffered from stress and anxiety attacks on a lesser workload than yours I offer this advice.
    See the doctor and get yourself signed off until that Medical Professional decides that you can face going in. Meanwhile relax and take all the medication and counselling assistance you can. The future can wait for you to be fit enough to consider the consequences when you are able to.

    Harsh advice, sorry, but I strongly suspect the alternative is to soldier on until you collapse mentally anyway. When I seriously considered crashing the car rather than facing the commute in meant that I sought medical help. Please don't wait that long until you act.
  3. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    Go back to your old place in year 1 and then think about the long term.
    Don't stay where you are unhappy, there's no point.
    You might even be able to change year 1 to be more child led, many schools are going down the road of ITMP and CP in year 1.
    Pomza, suzuki1690, pepper5 and 5 others like this.
  4. MissKitCat

    MissKitCat New commenter

    I would go back to the school that I loved and teach Year 1, your previous Head obviously values you and would like you back. Your health and happiness are extremely important. I think the other posters have given good advice.
  5. install

    install Star commenter

    Take the job offer. Get out. Well done on making contact with people who know your work ethic. Take it before the job offer goes. Listen to your gut.
    phlogiston, Pomza, MissKitCat and 4 others like this.
  6. pepper5

    pepper5 Star commenter

    Definitely resign to go back to your old school.

    Dont feel guilty.

    You have to put yourself first.
  7. sunshineneeded

    sunshineneeded Star commenter

    Take the offer at your old school - life's too short to feel the way you do now. You're really lucky to have the opportunity to go back to a place where you were happy, felt valued and enjoyed going to work every day. Put the wheels in motion tomorrow! Good luck.
  8. JoscelynH

    JoscelynH New commenter

    Hi Beth,

    I felt like I could have written this post myself. I have the same role as you and feel very similar. I just got a sign-off note from the gp this morning.

    It would be great to talk more.

    J x

  9. Pomza

    Pomza Star commenter

    Get a written job offer from the old school, then immediately resign.

    You’ll feel the weight lift from your shoulders straight away.
  10. BeHappy19

    BeHappy19 New commenter

    Please do what is best for you...your health and wellbeing need to come first.
    I was in a similar situation for over three years. I knew within hours of starting at the new school that I'd made huge mistake. Listen to your heart and get out ASAP. Life is too short!
    agathamorse and Pomza like this.
  11. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    Everyone seems pretty unanimous here and I don't disagree.
    I would suggest that you document everything. You have described significant injuries, behaviour problems, a lack of support and relentless work (some of which may be busy-work).
    If the school is chaotic, they may decide to look around for a scapegoat. There are other threads on this forum of people whacked with disciplinaries just as they think they're escaping.
    agathamorse and JohnJCazorla like this.
  12. starlightexpress

    starlightexpress Occasional commenter

    If a GP has said they will sign you off sick, why are you not now? It frustrates me if GPs say they’ll sign off sick, if wanted. If you’re ill, you’re ill. It’s surely not a choice to be signed off sick? If I went to the GP with health issue, I’d exit with the outcome, based on GP advice- referral to specialist, prescription, fit note or general advice.

    CVs can be fine with short duration in role. You can explain this professionally in future selection process.

    My advice, like others:
    1. Get offer in writing;
    2. Resign for October 31st;
    3. If ill, then recover. You might find resigning makes you feel so much better and symptoms ease.

    This school is just not for you and that’s ok.
    agathamorse likes this.
  13. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    You're going back to the old place to YR1. Lovely age!

    Get it all confirmed and wave goodbye to the Titanic. You're not going to save that ship by yourself so you'd be more use on a seaworthy vessel. Unless you have superpowers? No, you don't.
    agathamorse and JohnJCazorla like this.
  14. teachingsherlock

    teachingsherlock New commenter

    I am in a similar situation. Hoping to be in touch with my old school zoonian shave everything crossed for a return there. Actually relieved I am not the only one feeling like thjs.
    agathamorse likes this.

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