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Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by missjoyful, Sep 3, 2018.

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what do I do...

  1. Give it till half term - it might get better?

    12 vote(s)
    57.1%
  2. Run for the hills and go with your gut!

    9 vote(s)
    42.9%
  1. missjoyful

    missjoyful New commenter

    This is quite upsetting for me, as I really thought I had been given a great employment opportunity and now I am not so sure or sure of how to proceed...

    I feel like I’ve been lied to about the role. So should I stay or go ? What would you do?
     
  2. Lara mfl 05

    Lara mfl 05 Star commenter

    Initial response, if you've got bills to pay, try to stick it out. that gives you a 'buffer' whilst you work out what to do. You could certainly indicate that the job is not as expected and that you would be looking at moving on if circumstances do not change. However there is no need to hand your notice in at the moment- they might even turn round and say you could leave straight away this early on in the term. :eek:
     
  3. FollyFairy

    FollyFairy Occasional commenter

    You considered it a great employment opportunity but now you feel the job is not what it was promised? Can you explain, if you can?
     
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  4. missjoyful

    missjoyful New commenter

    It seemed interesting. But now it doesn’t!
     
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  5. FollyFairy

    FollyFairy Occasional commenter

    Is it the kids then?
     
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  6. Piranha

    Piranha Star commenter

    If you have been lied to about the role, then you may well have a way out on the basis that they have breached your contract. In which case, you need to speak to your union. However, if it is just a feeling, then you are committed to the job until the end of your notice period (31 December?) and you will be in breach of contract if you leave earlier. This could have major implications for your future, as you will need your current school as a reference if you want to stay in teaching.

    If you have a way out, it is impossible for us to be sure what is the best course of action without knowing more details. If it is just that the job is not interesting, you might as well stick it out for a term.
     
  7. frustum

    frustum Star commenter

    You may need to be careful what you say here to avoid identifying yourself.
     
  8. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    Assuming today was day 1, and meetings, my advice would be to give it a chance.
    However, when Mrs P started at the Frantic School, she was pretty sure she didn't want to stay there by the end of the first (part-tme) week. She stuck it out to Christmas though!

    On day 1 you are confronted with a whole load of new people. They all know where everything is and how the procedures work while you're thinking "oo-er, they didn't do it this way before" or "who is this Billy Wriggle in my class?" You need to find someone sane who can give you the "real" low down on what's happening and doesn't mind going through the procedures and routines.
    I'd say stick it out unless they're sticking real pins in you or really doing your mental health in. You ought to give it until the end of September.
    Best wishes
     
  9. gemmamarie08

    gemmamarie08 New commenter

    Without knowing the issues it's hard to say what you should do, however, I do think you need to give it more time.

    Starting somewhere new is always hard - I know our new starters today felt a bit overwhelmed with everything at times.

    Give it a good to until Oct half term and then you can always resign to leave at Christmas if it really isn't for you. You might end up suprised though!

    When I started my current school, I started at Easter and for the first two weeks or so I really had doubts about whether the school was right and whether I wanted to stay. I honestly thought I had made a mistake and maybe my last school wasn't so bad after all.

    I stuck it out and 2.5 years on I am totally happy and have recently gained a promotion so it can work out!
     
  10. jago123

    jago123 Established commenter

    Personally, I would see how the next 6 weeks go in the first half term and if you don’t like it, then hand in your notice and leave at Christmas. You are legally bound to a contract, so you could not just leave without any notice, unless of course, you don’t care about your teaching career.
    If you know for certain that you won’t be happy, then nothing is stopping you from starting to apply for jobs, but you need to have a conversation with your new HT and I can’t see that being a positive one at all especially as you haven’t worked that long in the role and they have invested all that time in recruiting, when they could have appointed someone who wants to be there long term.
    For me, I would always work in a role for at least a year before deciding what to do next. You never know, you might enjoy it. I would still speak to the HT about the discrepancies in what you was offered though.
     
  11. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    Well we have no details.
    I'm trying to imagine what scenario of disappointment or duplicity would have me considering running for the hills and going with my gut compared to what I was expecting.
    Delivery of non-specialist subject?
    Extended commitment eg Saturday morning?
    Part time but there every day with trapped time?
    Cliquey ethos and feeling of subterfuge across staff?
    Seemingly impossible remit eg write SoW by next week?
    Employed as TA but has teaching timetable?

    It's relevant to ask for more detail, because maybe one of those things is not likely to change,some of those are not all that bad, and a few of those things can be discussed.
    All of those things are do-able, but not all people want to do them.

    One thing's for sure-if you have just had six weeks of no work, then the second day back at work is going to be twice as easy as the first.
     
  12. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    Don't judge your entire job on your experience of INSET!
    INSETs are supposed to be boring.
     
  13. FollyFairy

    FollyFairy Occasional commenter

    Today's Inset was on GDPR... 6 hours of my life I'll never get back!!!
     
  14. ScienceGuy

    ScienceGuy Occasional commenter

    Ouch
     
  15. Piranha

    Piranha Star commenter

    My tip is to sit at the back and do something you find more interesting. I solved a few Maths Olympiad questions at INSETs; it was particularly satisfying when I could do one without writing anything down! Or, failing that, a crossword passes the time nicely.
     
  16. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    While it is tempting to do more interesting things, managements are often surprisingly intolerant of subversive behaviour during training they value. Best to keep them in your head. If you play buzzword bingo, do not leap out of your seat shouting "Bingo, I win".
     
  17. emerald52

    emerald52 Star commenter

    My school had a couple of older staff who would fall asleep and snore during inset and meetings. :D
     
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  18. mothorchid

    mothorchid Star commenter

    In my last school, I felt strongly from day one that it was not a good place to be. i stayed for 6 years and it nearly broke me. I did try to convince myself that I would be Ok but after a term or so, I knew it was wrong. I started looking for jobs, and was unable to find one which fitted what I wanted, so I stayed for the 6 years.
    However, it wasn't to do with it being a bit uninteresting. More a bullying and toxic SLT who did not care about or support staff. And that was clear from day one.
    So I'd say keep with it, but look for a way out. No-one ever died of boredom, so give it a year, which will look fine on the CV.
    You never know, it may improve...
     
  19. install

    install Star commenter

    I'd say get out fast if you feel lied to about your role. Easier to leave now than later. But keep it sweet as much as you can. A better phrase might be 'it doesn't suit you '. But look to get another job first if you can :):):)
     
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  20. missjoyful

    missjoyful New commenter

    Thank you for all your replies - they were all very helpful.

    I know there is the dominant riding it out culture in schools, it will get better it’s only the start and what not. But my gut and almost 20 years of experience is telling me this will have a negative tremendous impact on me if I stay.

    To expand on this - last week I was put in a meeting where I was bullied and subject to ridicule, prior to this I have been shouted at by staff. We are only three/four weeks in.

    So not only have I been lied to about the role, I’ve now been subject to really worrying unprofessional behaviour.

    Needless to say I without doubt want out. Does anyone have any success stories of breaking a contract early or how they would do this ?
     

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