Aww Lillipad this is a really hard time for both of you. I think it might feel better in the morning, but if he is still being distant, I think you ought to tell him what you have said in this post. You can tell him in a kind/sympathetic kind of way and say that you feel that on the very rare occasion you have gone out (tell him how many) you feel that he is resentful and "punishes" you the next day by being distant or even ignoring you - as he did today. Heaven knows he must be having a rough time - I can't imagine how awful it must be - but it isn't easy for you either and you feel that by being available to listen to him you were being supportive, not "serious" (in a negative way). In fact have I got this the wrong way round, does he object to you having a laugh with friends? Either way, you can't go on like this treading on eggshells. You need to know where you stand and what he wants and expects of you and until you know that, how can you even consider if you want to do what he expects - even though you love him to bits. Anyway (((lillipad))) as I said maybe things will look better in the morning - have a glass of wine girl!