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My cat

Discussion in 'Personal' started by rach7, Oct 11, 2019.

  1. rach7

    rach7 New commenter

    I know that in the grand scheme of things it’s not that important really but by 20 year old cat died in my arms tonight, and that’s a bit rubbish.
  2. rach7

    rach7 New commenter

    And my comma is incorrectly used but I felt it needed a pause there...
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  3. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Aw, I'm so sorry! You must be very upset. Your cat was part of the family.
    So sad.
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  4. irs1054

    irs1054 Star commenter

    Been there several times.
    My sincere condolences.
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  5. JaneBennet

    JaneBennet New commenter

    Just browsing and saw this, and wanted to reply. I’m so sorry. As a cat lover who’s said goodbye to a few precious feline family members in a range of contexts, my heart goes out to you. It’s platitudinous at this point, but over time hopefully it’ll mean something that they left you at such a fab old age and in your loving arms. Look after yourself now like you looked after them. Xxx
  6. sabrinakat

    sabrinakat Star commenter

    My beloved Daphne {see avatar} passed away in late May at 18. I still miss her. It hurts like hell, but it does get better. They died in our arms and we got to say goodbye. Biggest hugs.

    ps. It does matter and your grief is allowed. RIP kitty....
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  7. josienig

    josienig Star commenter

    Ah @rach7 that's so sad..but how lovely that you had your cat for 20 years xx
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  8. sparklepig2002

    sparklepig2002 Star commenter

    Pets are part of the family. It is so sad when they die. Condolences.
  9. Corvuscorax

    Corvuscorax Star commenter

    It certainly does matter in the grand scheme of things. Love between humans and animals enhances lives and makes the whole world better for them and us. Of course the cost of enjoying that love is the grief when a relationship ends.

    Its not a small thing.

    I am sitting here struggling to stretch to reach the keyboard as my adored cat has plonked herself inconveniently in my lap while I try and type with my computer relegated from laptop to knee brink.

    She makes every day funnier, more cheerful and more loving. When her time comes, I hope she will be in my arms.

    Lots of love to you xx
  10. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

  11. Norsemaid

    Norsemaid Lead commenter

    I'm really sorry to hear this sad news. It is never easy and no you are not being silly nor is it a small thing .
    It's okay to grieve- in fact it is normal and necessary . I hope in time you will remember the fun times you had without feeling too sad .
    Sending you a hug if that's okay .
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  12. amica

    amica New commenter

    Feeling so sad for you tonight as you are parted from your furry friend. Be kind to yourself in the days to come and take the time to grieve as you need to and then remember the happy times. When my cat died I was comforted by the Rainbow Bridge story, and by the kindness of fellow cat-lovers on here.
  13. stanley4shoes

    stanley4shoes Occasional commenter

    So sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself, and don’t under estimate the impact or importance of your loss, they’re family
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  14. primarycat

    primarycat Star commenter

    I'm so sorry to read this. Pets do become part of the family and it's not a small thing at all.
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  15. Over_the_hill

    Over_the_hill Star commenter

  16. Grandsire

    Grandsire Star commenter

    I’m so sorry - that’s so sad. It’s the price we pet-owners pay for loving our pets, I guess.

    I know, as a devoted cat-lover, that you can take solace from the very long and happy life they had with you, and the fact that their end was with you, feeling safe and loved. I wish all my cats had easy end-of-life experiences but the sad truth is some didn’t, and for one I’ll simply never know what happened, which is far, far worse, believe me.

    I have an elderly female rescue cat who is so sweet and affectionate, but is absolutely terrified of the whole vet experience - the box, the car journey, the waiting room... everything about it is awful. I just have to hope she can ‘slip away’ in her sleep, or in my arms like yours, when the time comes.

    Thinking of you.
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  17. minnie me

    minnie me Star commenter

    I think you gave your cat a fabulous life and you were so lucky to have each other. Never underestimate the strength of a bond like this. My cats have / do give me so much joy and I am grateful that they have been / are part of my life. So very sorry that you are suffering. It will get easier. Thinking of you too
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  18. sunshineneeded

    sunshineneeded Star commenter

    So sorry. Your cat was part of the family and had been for a very long time. Thinking of you.
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  19. lanokia

    lanokia Star commenter

    Bet they were 20 great years...

    Sorry for your loss.
  20. Nellyfuf2

    Nellyfuf2 Senior commenter

    My condolences.
    The death of a cat is so hard to explain to those who have not become enslaved.

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