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Mother's Day

Discussion in 'Personal' started by delmamerchant, Mar 25, 2017.

  1. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    Not a post to 'like', as such.

    My respects.
    InkyP, Ezzie, smoothnewt and 4 others like this.
  2. Pomza

    Pomza Star commenter

    Tescos was absolutely packed tonight with people buying last minute tat like £10 candles, undersized cushions and signs with supposedly uplifting messages on them!

    I've bought my wife a new pair of converse for mother's day - Can't wait till the kids are old enough to sort it themselves!
    nomad likes this.
  3. Calpurnia99

    Calpurnia99 Star commenter

    Not wishing to sound unsympathetic (and failing) but I don't see why we need to write the day off because some people had unfortunate relationships, fertility difficulties or non-standard parenting arangements.

    It's a likelihood that we will outlive our mothers and I'm sure that's the way most of them would want it. No need to abolish a nice tradition because some of us had mothers who have died.
  4. inky

    inky Lead commenter

    I agree.
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  5. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    With my mother having passed on many years ago and with no wife and no children of my own, how should I celebrate the day?

    I am happy to snarf an entire Simnel Cake on my own, but apart from that...?
    HelenREMfan and Dodros like this.
  6. BelleDuJour

    BelleDuJour Star commenter

    This is my first Mother's Day without my adored Mum.
    But I have both my babies with me and we are sharing memories of a much loved Mum and Grandma and being together as a family.
    Love to all the Mums out there.
    sparklepig2002, HelenREMfan and nomad like this.
  7. annie2010

    annie2010 Occasional commenter

    Not boring at all; Like to be reminded of the original context of these days which have become mired in guilt inducing commercialism.
  8. inky

    inky Lead commenter

    Dear nomad, snarf away.

    If we got rid of everythimg that upset someone, we'd have nothing left to celebrate.
  9. JosieWhitehead

    JosieWhitehead Star commenter

    These special "family" days in the calendar, especially mothering Sunday and Christmas, only highlight to many people the "alone-ness" they have to bear. We don't have a "friendship" day as far as I know. I'd rather that every day was a special day for members of families, or, for those who don't belong to a caring family, a "friendship" day, when you can show love and friendship to those living around you, those who live away, to those you work with and a day when children can show love to others that they share their classroom with, and especially their teachers. It would be nice if children could remember, perhaps, someone who lives alone nearby, and perhaps with parent, could visit them and take them a card they've made, or a few flowers they've picked, or a picture they've done at school as a little present. Bring them up to love others around them and show them respect.
    Dodros likes this.
  10. Orkrider2

    Orkrider2 Star commenter

    Thoughts to everyone for whom tomorrow is nothing more than a reminder that life is not how they wanted, expected or planned it to be.

    I woke up to find that mr ork has sorted out a card and flowers for his mum but not bothered to help the kids get me anything. The eldest had text me from his dad's, the middle one made me a card at school a couple of days ago so I guess he though it was sorted. I won't lie, i'm a little hurt. It would have been nice to feel appreciated.
  11. inky

    inky Lead commenter

    sorry, Josie, but please remember that some people have no friends!

    No offence intended, but I find the idea of a "friendship Day" just ever so slightly twee.

    Whoops, I think I just pressed report rather than edit.
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  12. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    I think it's a bit rum to have a day set aside. I can't be doing with it and always instruct mine not to waste their money. Crikey, if I don't know how they feel about me by now then I don't see how Hallmark is going to help. If we in a very rare 'falling-out' period then a card would just be a sign of hypocrisy. It wouldn't help at all.

    Not a fan. It's a day. I don't need Hallmark to remind me how to behave around people or how to be grateful.
    FormosaRed, Laphroig, nomad and 2 others like this.
  13. JosieWhitehead

    JosieWhitehead Star commenter

    People out in our world are longing for friendship - or even a kind word. Those who have no friends are usually people who do not want friends or perhaps cannot mix or do something kind for others. It is impossible to think that you can spend a lifetime on this earth and not make a friend. Invite your neighbour in for a coffee or take some flowers to someone you know has been ill. Volunteer to do something kind in your town. There are lots of opportunities to do worthwhile things for others and make at least one friend in a lifetime.
  14. inky

    inky Lead commenter

    Josie, I turned 63 yesterday, so I do know a bit about life: you know, the things you pick up here and there along the way.
  15. JosieWhitehead

    JosieWhitehead Star commenter

    Mothering Sunday (as it is called in the UK) was traditionally one day when servants were traditionally given a day off to visit their mother. There were no Hallmark cards or meals in hotels etc. They took a simple bunch of spring flowers, often primroses or violets. When I was a child, there were no cards sent, as far as I remember, but we went to church with our mothers and the children were given a small bunch of violets to give to their mothers. I'm afraid that over the years this occasion has been seized on again as a retail opportunity. As for me, I've written a Petrarchan sonnet called Mother Mine which is my gift to you all and it will be on TES as soon as I can do it. I'm off. A happy Mothering Sunday to you all.
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  16. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    Happy birthday, oh wise one.

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  17. inky

    inky Lead commenter

    Thank you, oh fellow sage!

    You have to laugh.
  18. smoothnewt

    smoothnewt Star commenter

    That's pants, and I know it won't change things today, but one day they'll be old enough to organise themselves and show their appreciation. They grow up so quickly that day will be here before you know it.

    I've just been really touched by a gift from my daughter who is very good on the sewing machine: a really pretty lavender-filled sleep mask she put together with some lavender left over from a craft activity she was running at her brownie pack, and some pretty fabric she had left over from something else she had made. It has made my day.
    Last edited: Mar 26, 2017
  19. emilystrange

    emilystrange Star commenter

    the cats didn't get me anything.
  20. slingshotsally

    slingshotsally Star commenter

    To be honest - I don't get Mothering Sunday at all.

    Everyday is a mothering day - a kind word, a smile, thank you's, helping around the house, telling jokes, apologising after an ego tussle, supporting mum in her endeavours, recognising the difficulties of her daily efforts... I thought everyone does this for their mother's during their life times.

    Even those with mothers who were to be endured, tired to do this to some extent.

    I'm sorry for those who lost their mum or who wanted to be mothers, the build up and commercialisation of Mother's day must highlight and intensify their loss.

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