I'm not sure if this is the right place to post. I'm a bit nervous about writng this but i'm honestly after some advice and don't want to talk to family members. I once heard that your family are not one to talk to about your husband or partner as they never forget anf may hold it against you both when you're in a happy place! I'll try to keep it short, but it could prove difficult. We've been married for 6 years- together for 12. Baby number one came recently after trying for so long. We've been so fortunate to never having had any real problems. Families got on, healthy, both worked, money ..okay, nice house..good enough sex life..the normal everyday happenings. We went through a rough patch about 5 years ago, when my husband left his job to start up on his own, he was a little depressed but we got through it. Baby is a blessing. I felt we were strong as a couple, secure, happy and she was very much wanted and planned for. Times changed when I got pregnant. In my opinion he wanted to make the most of our life before it changed. He started to go out more. Iwas too pregnant and tired to go so he went with a his friends. Baby came and of course it through us both into chaos for a bit. He still went out, carrioed on with life and I was thrown into learning how to be a mother. I did begin to resent this- some arguments began. He settled his going out but began another hobby, which meant he uses this as an excuse to go out now. He's always had a problem with getting up in the mornings. When his business is doing well, he's up at a reasonable time and suits up and goes. May come back late which is another argument. Lately, things are very quiet, the staff run things well, he stays in bed till mid morning sometimes afternoon. More arguments. Sex has been very sparse. Probably my fault- I wouldn't say I have lost interest but yes, honestly, prefer a good night sleep before I have to get up at 6 to see to our lttle one. I don't think he is having an affair but I am fearful how he copes with the no-sex issue. I'm worried about him not wanting to get up in the morning. I've tried to talk to him. He either tells me i'm patronisng or he ignores me. I've shouted at him, ignored him, talked gently and caringly. I feel we are in crisis. He was my world, my number one. Since the baby, I feel his actions are pathetic. Maybe he senses this. I was weak before, emotional and relied on him for everything. Now I feel strong, I have to be for the baby. I'm an equal now. Maybe he doesn't like this. If this would have been before the baby, i would cry and worry constantly about him wanting to divorce me. I don't now. Our little one needs me to be a strong role model. What can I do to help him? Help us? Have you been through anything like this?