How do I get my libido back? I'm 48 and going through the menopause (lots of hot flushes and sleepless nights); havent had a period for over 2 years. I just have no interest in "physical" matters anymore and things are getting very strained between me and my OH. It doesnt help that my mum is now living with us; she has the bedroom next to ours and I just find it very off-putting. My OH seems to think I can simply supply sex on demand, not that he "demands" it very often. Maybe I could switch on and off like that once but I just cant do it anymore. I dont know if it is that I dont want it with him, or whether I dont want it at all, with anyone. When we do have sex, I just feel nothing, other than finding it rather uncomfortable.