At the age of 55, i've just lost one of my parents. My mom couldn't wake my dad yesterday morning and despite their best efforts, two ambulance crews couldn't wake him either. He was 81. A good age you might think. My mom is 83. Increasingly frail, poor mobility, - my dad was her carer. My grandmother is 102. Frail, yes, but still living in her own house and taking care of herself, with a bit of help from family. My dad was fit as a fiddle. A bit overweight - but on the whole, fit as a fiddle. Never a day's illness in his life. He died the way he lived - quietly, and with a great deal of dignity. Its all so unfair!!!! Today I have to be strong for my mom, and for the rest of the family who are distraught. I have to begin ringing round doctors and registras etc in order to get things moving along. As executor of his will, I also have to try to ensure that his wishes are followed. In his will, he's stated that he wants to donate his body to science. However, I think that he should have completed a separate donation document to go alongside it - so i'm not sure that any medical school will be willing to have him. Of course, the funeral directors will also be wanting him NOT to go that way. Yesterday I rang many relatives to let them know of my dad's death. And friends too of course. I have been amazed at how few of those relatives have actually rang my mom to express their support. I understand that they probably have no idea what to say to her - but really, I wish they could put that aside and ring anyway. I'm also angry that he didn't give us the time to say goodbye. I know that is selfish. He has had the perfect death, really. I couldn't have wished for any better for him - or anyone . To die in your sleep, with no warning, no pain, and no fear - that's the perfect way to go really, isn't it? And it's what he deserved. A nice death. I know you lot didn't know my dad. But its such a help for me to just offload a bit on here. I have to be strong for my mom, but here, while she's still sleeping, I can have my little weep.