I have recently moved in with my inlaws whilst I save for a deporsit (bf's parents we're not married but just easier to say inlaws!) and food causes issues, resulting in bad feeling tonight. I was happy to cook for myself, I buy my own dinner things and at breakfast have porridge which is prepared on mass for everyone. As they make loads at teatime his mum said they'd cook for me, so I thought fair enough. On a Friday we fend for ourselves, Saturday night his stepdad likes to cook, and prefers for no one else to do it (I have offered and cooked once) so if we're in we eat. On a Sunday it's either here for all of us plus grandparent's or tea at the grandparents, or I cook. In the week they don't eat until after 7pm, by which time I'm starving. If I make stuff from food I have I feel rude so I try to wait. Tonight my bf and I decided to go out for tea as we hardly see each other in the week. His mum was making pasta bake, but it keeps until tomorrow. When we said we were going out for tea his mum said she wasn't being funny but is it easier to fend for ourselves. I said yes my bf said no! His stepdad then said on a Weds and Sat we could fend for ourselves, which is fine by me. Now seems to be an atmosphere about it. I was always happy to make my own tea, not an issue for me. I understand why his mum might be annoyed that she cooked and we went out, but it's only the second time we've done that. We agreed a rent amount, but she wouldn't let me give it her at all at first. I then had to draw out cash and she woulds only accept half. So now I will buy and make my own tea, but then will feel rude if I'm coming in and making something whilst she is too. But at least that way I feel no guilt and I can eat when I get in. The joy of living with inlaws!