In a nutshell, OH moved out 3 weeks ago following a lengthy MH crisis and now seems to be going through a mid-life crisis as well, but this post is not about that. We've been married for a long time (our eldest is 19) and to be honest I never thought this would happen, ever. Part of me accepts what has happened but part of me thinks I will wake up soon and find it's all been a bad dream. I'm finding it difficult to get used to him not being there, and to the children spending time in his flat as well as here. It feels really strange. I don't really know how to put this - is it usual to feel like this? If your partner left you, how did you deal with it?At the moment he is splashing out on the children bigtime when he takes them out - is this some kind of guilt trip to make up for what he's doing? I would welcome any advice.