I remember those days of buying a fancy babygrow, and feeling quite proud of the thing that I had given birth to. Today, my youngest has been signed for an illustration agency, so my job of mum is over, she made it, and the middle one too is off to be sponsored for yet another 3 year course at uni after his first degree, and we don't have to pay. The free spirit which is the eldest and has the music degree is a conundrum. " Is this the real life or is it just fantasy". Fraid it is the real life. To all you prospective mums, "never expect the Spanish Inquisition", because that is what it feels like. I probably ought to switch to Mumsnet, but I am too political for that, I hear very little on TES about actual children and their lives which seems quite odd for a teaching website.