I've applied three times for headship, been short listed each time and twice lost out to internal candidate - most recently despite being told she wasn't applying. Each time I take feedback and act on it, but am now feeling totally demoralised and beginning to lose my nerve. I am wondering if there's a 'hidden agenda' about why I'm failing. I've seen my references, both are outstanding. I recognise that resilience is an expected quality for headship and that I need to continue to work on interview technique. But ... ... at what point should I accept it's not going to happen?