Well, well well what a lovely Sunday I have had. Attempting to be 'rational' to a head bent on 'controlling'? Blissfully trotting along on Supply and then to be more 'pro-active' registered with a few more agencies and gave a new referee. It seems incredulous I'm in this situation again. Except not quite the same as I will list another referee and it's different on supply (one of the reasons WHY I went on Supply in the first place was so wasn't under any controlling or bullying influence from 'one particular person' as you are at the mercy of in permanent posts?) I simply cannot understand, however, WHY there are so many 'controlling' management members in Education. is there something about Education that attracts them? Started with an innocuous email asking why head had said he's never heard of me ( to agency) and to let me know whether he was or was not happy to be named as a referee? Surely a 'normal' and everyday/reasonable request from a teacher? Straight away he started ranting on about a 'hostile response' and the 'tone' of the email. I emailed because I have my phone switched off at work and when you try to phone most heads to ask them anything, they are either out, on course, busy or you speak to the office manager? Obviously can't post actual emails here as would give fuel to his manipulation of the perception of me as 'unfit' and 'unprofessional' and for the usual privacy etc reasons. But if anyone wants me to email them a copy please let me know as I would love a second opinion as to whether I HAVE actually ANY tone in my email - who knows maybe it's ME that's blind to it? Straight away received 'veiled threats' about 'professional conduct' ' I will have to comment on this if you still want me to be a referee etc'? all just seemed very 'controlling' as I have said - or an attempt to be? Now he has escalated it and has made comments about my 'emotional health' and 'working with children' even to the point of suggesting I ask for 'professional assistance!' - bloody cheek! Nothing wrong with my emotional health mate until you started attempting to control and bully! He's just completely turning everything around on me and I'm not sure quite WHY he is being so hateful towards me when I haven't done anything wrong? But again this is the lesson isn't it- don't try to 'understand' the bully - this is what they do - manipulate everything - oozing charisma with everyone else around and then make YOU look like the problem? Some of you will mention Union (as I indeed to to try and help other posters) - not kept up with subscription because of other costs although i did when on permanent contract.