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Job hunting after resignation

Discussion in 'Jobseekers' started by lappiesza, May 18, 2011.

  1. Dear Theo,
    I find myself in a very difficult situation and need some advice.
    I started at a new Independent Prep school in Sep 2010. Things were going well and I settled in well. I was living on my own in a two bedroom school apartment. At that point my partner and her 7 year old son was still living 2 hours away and we decided to look for a place together near my work. I asked my employer if my partner and son could move into my accommodation whilst we look we look for a place together. He said yes and applied for a CRB for her as a resident/assistant. We received a confirmation letter from the bursar that they have moved in and CRB came through successfully. They gave up their place and moved in fully into school accommodation.
    A month after they moved in the headmaster called me in stating that he has to evict my partner and her son because we were not married(his housemaster lives with a partner and is not married) and parents have complained. He gave her notice to be out within two days! Making her and a 7 year old homeless.
    I was very upset and after thinking about the situation I handed him a response letter to the eviction and my resiganation. I left after only completing two terms at the school.
    It now seems like my CV reflect me as a person that move around and in three months and 20 plus applications I have only had two interviews. I have also had feedback that I am getting a bad reference. My assumption is that this employer is preventing me from getting a job.
    My question is how can I discount this employer and not use him as a reference? Or how can I explain my position when I make my applications?
    Any help will be much appreciated.
    Joe
     
  2. Dear Theo,
    I find myself in a very difficult situation and need some advice.
    I started at a new Independent Prep school in Sep 2010. Things were going well and I settled in well. I was living on my own in a two bedroom school apartment. At that point my partner and her 7 year old son was still living 2 hours away and we decided to look for a place together near my work. I asked my employer if my partner and son could move into my accommodation whilst we look we look for a place together. He said yes and applied for a CRB for her as a resident/assistant. We received a confirmation letter from the bursar that they have moved in and CRB came through successfully. They gave up their place and moved in fully into school accommodation.
    A month after they moved in the headmaster called me in stating that he has to evict my partner and her son because we were not married(his housemaster lives with a partner and is not married) and parents have complained. He gave her notice to be out within two days! Making her and a 7 year old homeless.
    I was very upset and after thinking about the situation I handed him a response letter to the eviction and my resiganation. I left after only completing two terms at the school.
    It now seems like my CV reflect me as a person that move around and in three months and 20 plus applications I have only had two interviews. I have also had feedback that I am getting a bad reference. My assumption is that this employer is preventing me from getting a job.
    My question is how can I discount this employer and not use him as a reference? Or how can I explain my position when I make my applications?
    Any help will be much appreciated.
    Joe
     
  3. TheoGriff

    TheoGriff Star commenter

    I'll start by saying that I am sorry that you and your partner have been in such a difficult position. I hope that you are now happily together again, and that the young lad has recovered from the nightmare experience.
    Q1 You are required to give your current or most recent employer as a referee. But - was there a HoD or someone there that you could give rather than the Head? And your other referee - are you on good terms so that s/he could add a small paragraph to his/her reference, stating that the view expressed by the otherr eferee (if it is your ex Head) may be coloured by the family issue that her raised with you? Worth a try.
    Q2 Explain that you wish to find a post where you can contribute to a school over an extended period of time, both for the benefit of the children, seeing your work bear fruit, and also for the sake of your young stepson who was (not traumatised - think of another word. Much shaken perhaps?) by the attitude ofyour former employer when he and his mother were forced to leave school residential accommodation at 48 hours' notice, an incident which led to you resigning.
    Best of luck in your search for a job. Have you read all the advice inside the Welcome thread? it can help you Get A Job!
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  4. Thank you for the advice.
    I was Head of Department so I am struggling to think of anyone who I can ask to act as referee.
    I am on very good terms with my other referee who is my previous employer. I will speak to them about your other suggestion.
    Thank you again.
     
  5. TheoGriff

    TheoGriff Star commenter

    Deputy Head? The Head of another Dept? The Head of Boarding?
    Best wishes



    _____________________________________________________________

















    TheoGriff. Member of the TES Careers Advice Service.

















    I
    do Application and Interview one-to-ones, and also contribute to the
    Job Application Workshops. We look at application letters, executive
    summaries and interviews, with practical exercises that people really
    appreciate.

















    The Job Seminars are all sold out, I'm afraid, but Julia is planning some more later on.


















    A new SLT seminar is available now on 22 May <u>www.tesweekendworkshop32.eventbrite.com</u>, and another is planned for 18 June.


















    E-mail Julia on advice@tsleducation.com for how to book a meeting with me personally.

















    Look forward to seeing you!








     

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