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I’ve hit a wall today.

Discussion in 'Personal' started by BetterNow, Apr 7, 2020.

  1. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

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  2. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    This won't make everything better, but I bet you smile... I've never seen a donkey behave like this.
     
  3. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    One of our neighbours has put a huge tent up in the garden.
    We've not worked out if it is for the kids to play in or the adults to escape to.
    But if you need an escape and have a tent, it could work.
     
  4. Jamvic

    Jamvic Star commenter

    I’ve gone for the retreating to bedroom option today. It was a ‘Do Not Disturb’ text message though.

    Being lovely, kind, wonderful people who worry about me I do keep getting disturbed. However, it’s thoughtfully done with breakfast in bed, periodic & very welcome cups of tea/chocolate biscuits :). I’m feeling a bit cheerier already just from the quiet time & I've had a nap so much less grumpy from my sleepless night.

    Hope you’re also finding a way through the temporary slough of despond @BetterNow
     
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  5. mothorchid

    mothorchid Star commenter

    my family in Rome, who have been in lockdown longer than we have, (and who have no garden, poor things) told me the end of the second week and the first couple of days of the first were the worst. I think that makes sense.
    This too shall pass.
     
  6. nizebaby

    nizebaby Star commenter

    I actually found that the queen's speech had a very calming and morale-boosting effect on me.
     
  7. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    Well you don't actually have to if you don't feel you can.
    Snapping out of things is a construct; it is based on normalising certain frames of mind and discrediting other frames of mind as somehow lesser in value.
    It's fine to not snap out of things and just wait.
    It wont be for ever.
    And it does not matter that it's out of your control for the moment.
    Even if it does not feel good
    Never for ever, it passes.
     
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  8. HelenREMfan

    HelenREMfan Star commenter

  9. BetterNow

    BetterNow Occasional commenter

    That’s helpful. Thank you.

    Thank you to everyone who’s taken the time to reply.

    I’ve been for a long walk and that’s helped a little. Noisy music from next door has meant that I haven’t felt like I’ve been able to retreat to the garden. For an hour or two, it’s not a problem, but for 8 hours+ each day while they’re sawing, drilling and hammering, it gets too much (I actually don’t mind the diy sounds but the music is just a constant annoyance). I realise that’s part of my problem is that I like to be productive (I don’t like to watch tv until the evening when I’ve 'earned it', for example). For the first time in a long time, I have time and money to do things around the house and the lockdown means that I can’t do any of it (how I’d love to do some painting/ get the flooring sorted etc).

    Social media is good and bad - it connects you to lovely people (here), but we all know the down sides. Just being able to write my first message helped.

    Thank you
     
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  10. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    One thing I'm doing that really helps is I go for a bike ride on my own at 6.30 every evening regardless of weather.

    It's quiet then and I have a regular circuit which takes about 45 minutes.
     
  11. nizebaby

    nizebaby Star commenter

    I thpught I'd posted something else but maybe I forgpt to press Post Reply
     
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  12. foxtail3

    foxtail3 Star commenter

    Thank you for that. I felt absolutely dreadful to start with, got a bit better and am struggling again, so that makes sense.

    I hate this permanently anxious churning feeling, sleepless nights and terror.

    I know it’s similar for everyone. I just wish I coped better.
     
  13. BetterNow

    BetterNow Occasional commenter

    I felt like that yesterday (although I do sleep well).

    I came out of the supermarket physically shaking. I wasn’t worried going in or while there, but deep down something is upset deep in my psyche.

    Very strange.
     
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  14. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    Going into any supermarket is very disconcerting at the moment and it is something we are doing our best to avoid.
     
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  15. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    Same here, but there are days when I try to decide which of the items to start on my long 'to do' list, and I never get round to any of them. I think it's possible to get decision fatigue, because even the things you want to do involve constant decision making. On such days (and I don't mean just during lockdown) I end up having an afternoon kip on the settee to give the old brain a rest. I don't normally sleep in the afternoons but sometimes I need a bit of blank space.
     
  16. Marshall

    Marshall Star commenter

    I've hit a wall several times but I have just taken one day at a time - one hour at a time sometimes. I've gone with the flow and not worried about normal stuff such as chores, etc.

    This has helped but it's pretty lonely being on my own even though I have good family contact and since I took my brother to task last week for not ringing me he or his wife have done this every second day.

    Mind you - they believe in the 5G conspiracy and other such nonsense and they know not to discuss it with me!
     
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  17. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    @magic surf bus I never write lists for this reason.
    Even just in our minds, we tend to hold lists.
    We know what we have to do in the day.
    When to arrive, when to get back.

    At the moment there is no compulsion for the list. No work, no schedule, no socialising, synchronising with others.
    And we become formless without our lists, and guilty because of it, and inadequate for feeling it. As if we are not doing enough to be human. As if we failed when we do not fulfill all the listed items.
    But
    It really does not matter.
    On my list-the sun comes up, the sun goes down.
    When that list doesn't work, then I'll worry.
     
  18. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    @sbkrobson - how I wish I could be as zen as that. I spend my waking hours feeling guilty if I'm not being productive. With that said, the lockdown has forced me to reassess my outlook. For the foreseeable, at least.
     
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  19. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    I just realised today that all the job interviews I had lined up have gone *pooft* and those jobs no longer exist. (Non teaching)
     
  20. nizebaby

    nizebaby Star commenter

    Whoops - the posts were on the self-isolation thread . I was worried I'd annoyed someone.
     

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