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Is this a life worth living?

Discussion in 'Personal' started by albertdog, Mar 22, 2012.

  1. (I have taken the liberty of reposting this letter, which I found on the Unemployed teachers site, as it struck me to the heart.)
    My husband and I are in our late fifties, and we have both been out of work for about a year. We have tried absolutely everything to got other work, but with no success. Our mortage is paid off and we have no debts, fortunately. Our combined JSA is £102 per week. We try to cover the essential bills, but cutting back on eveything else. We have not had the central heating on since last Spring. We only use electricity very sparingly: we save on washing by wearing thick track suits, which are also warm to wear. We use very little gas for cooking as we have hardly anything to cook. Everything saleable has gone. We have the house on the market since last autumn but nobody has been to view yet.
    Perhaps I am just feeling 'down', which I certainly am. We have gone past the point of going on 'coin hunts' hoping to find some forgotten loose change. Very often, we will be down to a few coppers, not enough to buy anything. For two or three days each week, the cupboard is literally bare and there is nothing to eat. It reminds me of watching Sam, all those years ago.
     
  2. I can empthise with the poster's plight as, last year, I was not far off myself. Things were better for me though, as I only had myself to consider. Being faced with siuations such as these, one does find oneself thinking 'has it come to this'?
     
  3. Thank God the Tory government are trying to eradicate work shy scroungers such as these good-for-nothings.
     
  4. Earl Davids wife

    Earl Davids wife New commenter

    I have every sympathy with this person who is having such trouble finding work. My own daughter with a degree and PGCE was out of work and on 'Job Seeker's' for well over a year with a mortgage and bills to pay after she split with her partner. If we'd not been able to tide her over she'd have gone under and not just for lack of money, she was becoming really stressed and depressed.
    Inspite of endlessly applying for lots of jobs including basic wage jobs, she didn't even get an interview. She was over qualified for shop work (etc) or lacking experience outside education for office work. Her four years lecturing and course managing up to degree level counted for nothing. There are thousands of young people (educated young people) like her and it a depressing situation for each and every one of them, young or 'old'.
    .
    Bauble made me cringe as I know of several real work shy scoungers including a few 16 year olds who have no intention of even trying to get a job - one of them told me that he couldn't do anything that he wasn't interested in and when asked what he was interested in, you got it, he didn't know.
    I hope the government whoever they are, get rid of work shy scroungers because it's my taxes paying for them. Grrrr.
     
  5. Bethannie

    Bethannie New commenter

    I am another with 'only myself' to consider. It doesn't always help....I would have given anything to have someone to sit and sob with me as my life fell apart around me, as it was I found it hard to talk about it at first.
    It is no secret to posters here that poverty really hit me a few years ago. I was living alone, struggling to meet rent. No heating...well the story is documented on other threads....I remember going to the JobCentre and showing them my purse - they had once again messed up my claim and left me with no JSA - not only that but this automatically cancelled my housing benefit claim and my landlord was less than friendly (no chance of moving)...and I asked the JSA girl how I was supposed to find rent and food with less than £2 in my purse.She wasn't interested. Very few people were.
    Looking at life now....yes I am financially more secure. I was able to move and got hep in sorting things out benefit wise. I am now on IB and DLA - at least until the government switch me to ESA (or more likely ignore my GP and my specialist and declare me 'fit for work....and then when DLA switches to PIP thousands will lose this benefit too....this government has no thought for the disabled, they just couldn't care less)
    Thinking 'has it come to this' would be so easy....I could sit back and mourn for the young girl who struggled through school and then shocked everyone by getting the equivalent of 3 degrees. ...became a teacher and did her bit to make a difference....she then went to Bible College part time to train as a minister...campaigned against injustice ...took part in protests...went mountain walking as a hobby......
    But whilst I have my low moments I am determined to keep seeing a brighter side...Yes, I had to leave my job and didn't finish my course at college....but I got to move closer to Mum and that means I live by the sea! And on my 'good' days I can still study a little at home...one day I might even get around to finishing my theology studies - possibly with the OU. (I got my first degree with them).....I can't afford to buy the sort of presents that people deserve for birthdays and Christmas - but it's surprising how popular my home made shortbread, microwave lime curd (from a recipe over on Cookery!) and little bits of embroidery and lace are....I get housebound with increasing frequency....but it means I have an excuse to watch the repeats of The Sentinel on TV and other afternoon delights!...and on good days I can do some needlework. (I sometimes think I should've been called Pollyanna.....but then, she was so smug with it!)
    I am blessed to have a deep faith...and the Word says that you are blessed when you help those in need,,,,,I can rejoice (?!!!!) int he fact that my poverty a few years ago allowed others to be blessed by helping me! (Including some amazing people from TES....I have never forgotten your generosity!)
    My heart goes out to the couple mentioned in the OP. No-one should have to live that like. We can't simply blame this government...much of the trouble stems from the last government - we as a nation have become more selfish and closed our eyes to the fact that real poverty exists in this country. Stories need to be told. People need to learn what is happening.
     
  6. kibosh

    kibosh Star commenter

    Likewise.
    And real solutions should be found for the genuinely worthy; the people who try to improve their lot against all the odds.

     
  7. Vampyria

    Vampyria New commenter

    Poor OP has all my sympathy and I've replied directly to her on the other thread.
    As mentioned over there, I'm even more cross than ever that her ex-'school' are withholding her redundancy money. Honestly, these people!
     
  8. stopwatch

    stopwatch Established commenter

    Great post Bethanie
     
  9. Late 50's? Dunno take in lodgers,foreign students,ESOL. Volunteer somewhere and pick up a few hours paid work eventually.

    Strip off and be a life model.

    There has to be something.........
     
  10. Care work,not great but always in demand
     
  11. katycustard

    katycustard Occasional commenter

    Not necessarily, my OH has been looking for work for about a year and even though we live in an area full of care homes there is no work to be had. Either people who are in the system already do extra hours or the jobs always go to friends or family of those currently employed.
     
  12. lurk_much

    lurk_much Occasional commenter

    It must be very disheartening.
    I would drop the price and move to Ulverston smartish.



     

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