My 4 year old son has always been pretty much perfect. I literally would burst with pride every day over something or other. It has been a significant time of change at home in the last year. My parents have both died. My husband's parents have moved abroad. My husband (who has been a stay at home dad since my son was born) got a job in November and now works from before my kids get up until after they go to bed. My daughter (aged 6) is coping spectacularly. My 4 year old son is not. He is brilliant for the majority of the time but since june he'll go to his room and rip off the wall paper or decide to tip the shampoo out onto the floor or say "no I won't do that, I'll do x instead". I know these things probably don't sound that bad written down but it's a nightmare at home. I'm worried that the shouting/tears will start to have a lasting impact on our wonderful family, and it makes me feel sick. My husband and I have always had good behaviour strategies and neither have misbehaved more than the norm before. I realise that there has been a lot of change in our lives but don't know how to help him or get him back to normal. I start a new job in September on top of it all and I know it sounds babyish, but I just want it to go back to normal!! Any advice on dealing with him when he acts maliciously so that I don't totally lose it or make it seem that I don't like him any more? Thanks for listening to the ramblings but I'm at the end of my tether.