My daughter is having a particularly difficult time with a friend at the moment, and has sought my advice on what to do, but my husband and I are both at a loss, about what advice to give. The 2 girls are 12. The friend can be very nice, is well-mannered, comes from what appears to be a lovely family, but she is really hard work. She is really, really sarcastic, always putting people down and constantly talking about herself. To be honest, I have seldom met such an opinionated 12 year old, and I am finding it increasingly hard not to intervene when she is constantlymaking sarcastic and negative comments about my daughter. I am trying to encourage my daughter to stand up for herself, and not accept the comments the girl is making. She is also very moody and huffy, and this is getting more difficult to manage as well. Just 2 weeks ago, she became very moody with my daughter. I was taking the girls out to sort out uniforms, and my daughter told her friend she couldn't see her that day. For some reason the other girl decided my daughter was not going out with me, but with a friend instead. She normally texts constantly, but didn't after my daughter said she was going out. They were supposed to be seeing another friend together the next day,and when my daughter texted to ask if they were still going as planned, the girl replied that she was and my daughter could do what she liked. My daughter asked her why she was being like this, and it then developed into a 2 day texting session about how hurtful it had been that my daughter asked her why she was being weird. My daughter suggested there had been some misunderstanding somewhere, and they should try to sort it out, but she told my daughter it was up to her to sort it. By now, my daughter was digging her heels in, and wanted an apology. I did check the texts my daughter sent, to ensure they were not cheeky, and although she was being honest, they were not cheeky. Eventually I suggested to my daughter, that it was apparent that neither was going to back down, and perhaps it would be the right thing to do, just to invite her round and move on. My daughter as most know has Asperger Syndrome, so was struggling with all this. In the end after a really major meltdown, about not knowing what to do, and being hurt and confused, she agreed to invite her over. Two days in a row, she said she was coming and didn't. Then eventually she did come, and after a while together they were fine. So last week, a friend of my daughter's from primary school, who was the only one o f a group of friends who didn't get into the same school, and who my daughter hasn't seen since Christmas, phoned her and asked her over as it was the girls 13th brithday. The new friend doesn't know her. My daughter was really pleased and went and spent the day with her on Wednesday. Then the silly behaviour from the new friend started again. She stopped texting, and any texts my daughter sent got a nasty reply. On Saturday, a group of friends, were supposed to come over to our house, but one had to cancel, so they decided to postpone until next week. My daughter told the friend that she could come over anyway, to which she replied shemight be going out - which was a bit strange as she was supposed to come over anyway :s My daughter left it that the friend would let her know next day. But again, she didn't text - which is very unusual. At teatime my daughter texted to say she assumed she wasn't coming over, to which the friend replied she had been out all day and had no phone. My daughter was really annoyed, so I told her not to text her back, and just to leave it - she has heard nothing since. Given that they normally send about 50 texts a day, this is unusual. My daughter has been seeing other friends so isn't sitting around waiting for her by any means, but it is annoying her, as she doesn't know what to do. My gut instinct is to tell her to leave it, as she really doesn't need all this negativity, and huffing and moodiness, but I know my daughter is probably thinking, that is going to be awkward when they go back to school in 2 weeks, if this goes on. She also knows that this girl could make life unpleasant for her at school, as she tells her side of the story. I don't see however why my daughter should always be the one running after the other, and making amends. We have given her the benefit of the doubt once, and moved on, for the same thing to happen a few weeks later. What would your advice be?