I have been with my partner for almost 2.5yrs, I have posted on here recently about the possibility of us splitting up. The main issue is the fact that he is just not sorting his life out as agreed when I moved up here. He needs a plan for what to do with his life, job etc. Here are the facts....... 27 yrs old, very fit semi pro rugby player, very intelligent, has v.good GCSEs and A levels (ABB I.T, Economics, Russian), went to uni for 1yr hated it and returned home. Has lived at home ever since. Works for grandparents in their local cafe earning around 12-13k tops. Decided to go back to uni to do Sports Science, so did a foundation yr in Sept. Finished in May with good results (Chem, Bio and Maths modules ranging from 87-95%). Decided during the course that didn't want to do Sports Science, so changed to Nutrition. He now is back at the point where he does not know what to do!!! Uni have sent to letters to ask if he is taking up his place to which he has not responded. With no qualifications beyond A level and the foundation yr plus no work experience ever except the cafe his chances of getting a better job are pretty much zero. If he goes to uni (to be honest I think his place will be gone now) that is a lot of debt and at 31 he will come out with a degree, but still no definite job. His family would support him in anything he chooses to do (in my opinion they have 'supported' him too much and that is why he is in this mess - 12k + rugby money goes along way when you pay no rent!). I find it very hard to understand and get so frustrated, mainly as I did not have anywhere near the level of support he receives and was told not to go to uni by my mum and still went and am now a teacher in a TLR post. I have had to work **** jobs and work hard to get where I am now, like most of us and so I struggle with the fact that he seems to have no inner drive to do anything. He has wasted nearly a decade since he was 18, and now I fear it is to late for him to change. He is such a good bloke, and has so much potential and he is just rotting! So my question is, what can he do?! I cannot think of a job he can go into, is uni a good idea he is cetainly intelligent enough but he may be in the same position in 3yrs time. All advice very very welcome.