Now katycustard, that's not too helpful. supposed to be talking me out of it! Mine are 24,23 and nearly 18. I'm over 45, but as far as I know not changing yet. I'm impressed and in awe of your situation - did you make the decision to pause between numbers 3 and 4, or was it more, shall we say, spontaneous? you don't have to answer if that's too personal!