Remain strong. I am wary that he is "angry" because he didn't temper in how a divorce would affect his "assets". Alas it seems to me he very much thought he would have cake and eat it. I don't mean this in a spiteful way but in a way that is fair to you. Alas divorce courts pay no heed to "fault" in a marriage break up these days and you have to be in the real world where it is harsher to be an older. less well-off female. You really do need good financial advice so you can salvage as much as is your due and so you can have the freedom to start a new life which he has lumped you with. Do do 'keep your nerve' because you will need to. I did get a bleat of 'but we would have been so comfortable in retirement' - well I am still ok helped by accessing my teacher pension at 60 and working on but.... my pension isn't all that great at 25 years ish of contribution but it has been supplemented by my working on and from lowish rental income from 2 small properties left to me by my mother. That was the one thing I was immoveable on during the divorce as I wanted to be able to leave them to my daughters. We bought him a small 2 bed terraced house on separating, putting a half cost deposit down from joint savings and taking out a £25K ish mortgage - which I paid for 2 years. We had then divorced and he sold that house pocketing the £20K profit whilst he moved across to Yorkshire. He did resent that I kept the 2 houses..... and what a good job it was that I did or wife no 2 would have them too. I think it is significant that your children are aware without you having to outline any detail. I don't think I would have sought my divorce when either my mother was still alive or my girls had been younger. My younger was 19 when we split and away at Uni (funded 90%+ by me) All I can say is remain resolute. Let him get angry but you can remain calm and decided. Am afraid it speaks volumes about him that he thought he could prob ride roughshod over you to cushion his future. I think you have done really well in quite a short space of time and you should be really proud of yourself!