Thankyou @Lalad How does one become good friends with the ex? I wish I could still have my husband's friendship but because I feel so hurt by his actions, that doesn't seem possible. It means I've lost both a friend and member of my family when I lost my husband. That part just seems so unfair when we'd had so long together. It should be possible as we are both mature adults with a long history but seeing him at the moment is stirring up too much emotion. Is it just a time thing?