Hi I’m really looking for some advice. My husband almost definitely suffers from depression (not diagnosed because he won’t get help but he ticks every box). This is made worse by the breakdown in his relationship with his son (not my biological child) 9 years ago. He was 15 and they haven’t spoken since. It was a horrible time; my husband wasn’t entirely in the wrong and his actions came from love but ultimately he pushed him away; and his son had somewhere to go (back to his mums). I couldn’t really intervene to change anything as ultimately, I was not his parent. I regret that and have told my husband this in the past. Our daughter is 16, and they are falling out all the time but his reactions are extreme. He is not a teacher and not used to teenagers. To be honest, I think he’s a bit scared of her because she has opinions. I (like every teacher) know which battles to pick but he doesn’t. Today, he has shouted at her about ‘the way she spoke to him’. It could be interpreted 2 ways; when I tried to give the alternative version I was told ‘don’t stick up for her’. He then went out for 3 hours and, since returning, hasn’t spoken to either of us (apart from her saying ‘where did you go’ and him saying ‘not far enough’). I know I’m in a controlling relationship, the question is, how do I avoid this having a negative affect on our (frankly, wonderful) daughter? I want to support everyone but I feel lost in the middle. Ultimately, I want her to know she’s worth more than this and that this isn’t how she should be treated, but I also want her to love and understand her dad. An added issue is I am the main wage earner. He couldn’t survive financially without me. Therefore he won’t leave. I couldn’t leave, take our daughter and stay in the same area (where her school is and friends are). I wouldn’t leave without her. What would you do?