...... your parent said your own wedding was 'sh@t?' (I overheard them talk really negatively about the best day of my life when they did not put the phone down properly and I was going 'hello? hello???') and so listened for a while longer.....to 'the cake is not cut properly the stupid girl' and the reception was rubbish, it was not as good as ........... ( my sisters) . I was SO upset. And a bit shocked as did not expect all of that. This was 7 years ago and to this day I have not got a great rel with both parents becasue of this. I still see them, yes, but lost faith in them and trust. I do not get along great with my older sister either ( who they said her wedding was a lot better) . Can I say they did not have anything to do with my wedding, never asked to volunteer, offer help with money or anything. I had a small wedding, at a local pub with disco, a nice church wedding which I wanted beforehand. To this day I have not had a genuine understanding from my dad and a sorry for what he said. My mum said the next day when I went round to them very angry - 'you should not have been listening in to our private conversation!!!' Excuse me? your daughter is HURT about a special day in her life and is mortified she heard such things??? Doesnt that deserve some understadning???? Can I also add that when growing up it was always me who got the blame for things when my older sister should have (she was and still is a bully). Used to be very intimidated by her and still am. Even tho I have rung her in adult conversations, when recetnly rang her to say how sorry I was to hear she had cancer - she is much better now - to which I got a 'you only ring as I have cancer' shouted down the phone to me. I did have a younger sister who I was very close to but she died when i was 12 (im now 36) and that was v hard for me to deal with. As a Teacher on a course regarding behaviour in young children we had to talk about what made children behave the way they do....a Teacher turned to me and said ; you know why your sister is like that with you and still is? Because your parents never disciplined her and she still acts like that in unkind ways to you'.I agreed with this but there is onthing I can do, even now. My sister ignores my sons birthdays, etc whereas I have a good relationship with her girls. (though only see them once a year as I now just feel so uncomforatble around them all in family times etc). I know, all v sad but I came to a point coupel years ago that said to me enough is enough, theres nothing I can do to help myself in all of this. I speak the truth about how hurt I feel and nothing. Its like they dont love me. and stopped loving me for me years ago anywya. Maybe I married the wrong guy, did the wrong job (they said they had ideas for me when I was in my teens of who Id be, whod Id marry etc). So any comments on my life with 'family'? anyone got similar family they have had to turn away from eventually and look after themselves? Thanks!!