Thank you for the replies, I suppose I should explain my situation further. My child isn't born yet - I'm 35 weeks pregnant - but it's an issue that's going round and round in my head. I can't stop thinking about it I cheated on my husband. I'm not even going to 'sugar coat it', because I'm disgusted with myself. The affair went on for 7 months and, during this time, my husband and I weren't having sex at all. When I found out I was pregnant, I knew that I wanted to keep the baby and that I had to come clean to my husband. I expected him to leave me straight away but he said he wanted to make it work and that he'd bring up the child as his own. My parents are the only other people who know that the child is not his. He says he doesn't want anyone else to know. I've made such a mess of everything. I don't want to hide anything from my child, and I'd like him/her to know from the start, but how? I can't see a way of telling the child, that won't involve telling everyone else too. Personally, I'd rather tell everyone but my my husband is against it. Feel free to call me whatever you want. I deserve it.