A little advice please, I have been with my current partner for not yet two years and I need to know where I draw the line. At xmas we both had to take on second jobs because he was made redundant last year and I agreed to support him in setting up on his own (which has all had to be done under my name due to financial reasons). He had little money at Xmas and I ended up buying all of his kids (from previous relationships) presents. Now we are looking at getting a mortgage which again all has to be done under my name. On top of the business and house and kids we are also trying to start our own family and I also work full time at a completely unrelated job to teaching. While he tells me that he isnt going anywhere and wants to make everything we have together work I can't help thinking that not only have I gone above and beyond the girlfriend duty at Xmas but I also stand to loose a hell of a lot if he gets up and walks one day. His ex is a constant pain in our lives and is alaways demanding money from him (which as far as I'm aware he doesnt give her) but I know it happens. I am a very all or nothing person and I believe I can handle everything but at 30 how do I know i'm not taking on too much and burning myself out? Vent over.