What signs were there and are you better for it? Background-married almost 8 years. The constant criticism, feeling I can do nothing right and lack of support is wearing me down. I married a true mama's boy and have a child already and another one on the way. I can't imagine still being in this position of feeling like this for the next 20 years. And yet. I think of the kids and the future. I am a person of colour and my culture is very anti divorce.