Hi, I have been at my current school for two years and I really like my time working there. However, I have always felt that my Head Teacher does not like me and during any meetings I have had with him I have felt like I was facing a firing squad and left feeling sure that he doesn't like me. I have been promoted whilst at the school but have seen an opportunity for a higher role in another school which is just too good to miss applying for. Of course I may not even get short listed for an interview but feel I should probably tell my head as they will definitely ask for references before interview. Should I tell him in person and ask him to be my reference or is it alright to do so over email? Normally, I'd just do it in person but my previous experiences one to one have left me a little terrified. I am also worried that he will hate me more and I won't have any chance of promotion there if things don't work out. Anyone know if there's a kind of courtesy rule about how to do this? I don't think he can say no to being a reference can he?