I'm tired of my LM's style of doing things: everything is a chase or a criticism, and I can remember very few instances of praise any more fulsome than "I thought that went well", delivered in passing before moving on to a criticism. When there's something to be said - usually "this wasn't good enough, change it" - 9 times out of 10 you're grabbed in a corridor and left feeling like you've failed at whatever it is. In terms of manner, I feel completely at the mercy of this person's emotions. He/she trails MOOD like a black cloud, and if he/she is in a mood, staff get blanked in the corridor, there's an absent and cold facial expression, and staff regularly come away from encounters with this person feeling really worried that they've done something wrong. In terms of leadership style, someone has told this person that "coaching" is the way to get stuff done. I find this incredibly unproductive - I want clear expectations, help and support from my LM, not "what is your vision for this post?" and a bunch of questions designed to "elicit" my best performance. I just want to know what he or she wants me to do, and I want to feel appreciated. As it is, I feel constantly insecure, worried and unsure what I've done wrong. I've had it up to the back teeth with feeling this way, and I'm going to challenge it. But how can I say all this in a way which will be heard as constructive feedback, not moaning? As much as this person is a terrible manager, they are still a human being who will get his or her back up if they're just moaned at. Any thoughts?