My 20 year old son swears at me and is horrible when he does not get his own way for example I would not lend him my good hoover to clean out his car(we have one for the car but it was locked in a shed we have and I did not have the key) he is very rough with things and does not respect anyone elses property, and he swore and told me to F..... off. This is not the first time he has done this. I know I spoil him as I make his lunches for work and his dinner when he comes home and I wake him up when he has a 6 o clock start in mornings. I do all his washing and am letting him off his rent at the moment as I could not afford to buy him a big present for christmas and I got his younger brother who is 14 a new laptop. I did buy him two tops and two pairs of track suit bottoms and a stocking full of wash stuff. By the way he got me a perfume which was not even wrapped. I am so hurt and even though he says sorry afterwards I am getting sick of his treatment of me and his brother and dad. I have decided to stop making his lunches, dinners etc and am not speaking to him at this time. I know i am supposed to be the adult etc but please could someone tell me if I am right to stop doing stuff for him. I am not working at the moment and am dead worried about money etc and I have the time to do all the stuff I do its just I am fed up with the total lack of respect from him. He is not a teenager any more and I think he has to realise he cannot talk to me the way he does. His dad would like to chuck him out, but I think thats a bit extreme. He doesnt drink or do drugs or anything its just that he is not very nice. I wold love to hear anyones comments about this as I have no one else to talk to about it.