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help in dealing with a very difficult child

Discussion in 'Primary' started by maireadmairead, Apr 3, 2011.

  1. maireadmairead

    maireadmairead New commenter

    H i everyone,
    I'd really appreciate some help with a child in my class
    have year one and he is 5 and a half. he was assessed
    before but they said they were unable to make a diagnosis. this year
    with him has been very hard.
    I'm hoping some experienced teachers will be able to give me some advice as to his condition and how to deal with him.
    i feel that he's on the spectrum somewhere but as an nqt i'm really not at all qualified to make that kind of observation
    here's some information about him:
    had a very delayed language development, apparently he could hardly
    talk when he started school but after lots of one on one work in the
    summer that his mother arranged for him he came to school this year
    talking fluently and clearly and able to read. however i feel that his
    reading hasn't progressed at all since the beginning of the year, he
    learned how to sound everything out in the summer and seems to be
    unable to take on any new strategies for reading or cant read a work if
    it does not sound exactly like the phonics
    he has very little concept of number. he can count but doesn't really get the order of number
    he basically never makes eye contact, but this does not mean he is not listening
    cant seem to concentrate on anything, except drawing which he is good
    at. it's the only time he's quiet or not distracted in class. however
    if he makes a mistake, even a tiny one with his drawing he starts
    screaming and crying and won't finish it. he also draws the same thing
    over and over, for the first half of the year it was mermaids, now it
    is houses
    but he is really unable to concentrate on anything.
    when all the children are on the mat and we are doing oral maths, he is
    sitting facing the other way, not on purpose, he really doesnt realise.

    he cant really socialise properly with the other children. on
    yard he doesnt really play with anyone. and at playtime, he gets very
    distressed and screams and wails if someone has a toy he wants or
    he is constantly talking and singing to himself. he is
    constantly pulling bits of string from place and putting them in his
    mouth, he puts everything in his mouth that he sees.
    even one on one it is nearly impossible to get him to concentrate for more than 30 seconds
    had great difficulty with him at the start of the year but spent the
    first 6 weeks really concentrating on him, trying to get him into a
    routine because he really needs routine and he did calm down. although
    he still wasn't learning as far as i could see he wasn't getting as
    distressed and crying and wandering around the room and distracting the
    class. I hadn't had any behavioural issues with him in such a long
    time. however our school was closed for 6 weeks there and we just
    started back two weeks ago. and now it's like we're back in september,
    he seems to have totally regressed, gets upset very easily over the
    slightest thing and I have to always tell him about five times times to
    do something.
    i really feel that he is learning nothing in my
    class and i'm worried about getting to the end of the year and him
    having learned nothing.
    we have no sna's or anything like that here.
    i have a ta but she's not really qualifed to deal with him and although
    she sits with him at group times she cant spend every minute with him
    either as she has other stuff to do
    i have a meeting with his
    mother this week and the principals want to try and get her to get a
    shadow teacher for him. i think she is kind of against that, or wants
    it as a last resort as she doesnt want him to be treated different. but
    he is different and the other children are starting to pick up on it
    more and more.
    he is very sweet and is very loving. at the
    start of the year i thought we'd never get on but now i'm so fond of
    him and am just worried about his progress and feel it's just gonna get
    worse as he gets older.
    I'm sorry if this post sounds a bit like waffling and is unclear. I'm not sure if i'm explaining it well.
    If anyone has any advice or suggestions I would be extremely grateful.
  2. clear_air

    clear_air New commenter

    Have you tried posting this on the special needs forum? There are some (more) excellent people over there.
    For what it's worth, here is my two penn'orth: talk to your SEN person in school. See if you can talk to advisory teachers. Talk to anyone else you can. And last of all, don't despair, concentrate on the little things first, and make a plan. Get your little boy ready to learn, and then he'll be able to. And most of all, don't lose any sleep over it - you are obviously a caring teacher - what a good thing that little boy is in your class.
    But most of all, talk to some expertly type people, I don't suppose you need any diagnoses to pick brains as much as you can?
  3. greta444

    greta444 New commenter

    He sounds like he's on the autistic spectrum. Get the ed psych in again to have a look at him. (parents permission first) Shadow teacher is a good idea and will reduce your workload in some respects.
    Good luck with him.
    Why was your school closed for six weeks?
  4. maireadmairead

    maireadmairead New commenter

    Thanks for the replies. I've posted it on special needs forum.
    i'm in a british school in cairo, school was closed because of revolution
  5. greta444

    greta444 New commenter

    ah, right. That would cause a few problems I suspect.
  6. clear_air

    clear_air New commenter

    Your little boy may be a bit shaken up by recent events too - not just time away from school. Let us know how you get on.
  7. It does sound as if he is on the Autistic spectrum, although you may not feel he is making progress I am sure he has. could you perhaps have a selection of work for him that works on number bonds and also sheets that are based on phonics whereby he identifies words with similar sounds or words that begin with a certain sound. I know this is more work but if it is something he could get on with while others are working. I would definitely get somebody in to do another assessment and in the meantime gather lots of evidence as to his ability so that if and when they come in to assess him you have already tried things and you are not going to have to start at the beginning. I appreciate how difficult it can be having been in a similar position myself.

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