Hi there. Any advice welcome here. I have inherited a child into my Y5 class who has serious problems controlling her emotions. She has many ASD traits but at every turn since EYFS the parents have refused to agree to any referrals for profession support/diagnosis. Therefore, there is no funding for this child who so desperately needs support in managing severe outbursts. Previous colleagues have tried to introduce helpful strategies to ensure he can communicate when her frustrations are building and teacher or TA (if there for we have no TA in the pm) can help distract de-escalate. This worked until the parents found out and then she told staff she was “not allowed to do that anymore “. Likewise my job share and I have tried preventative strategies which were starting to work and we now discover these have been undermined by home. She will scream continuously for 20 minutes or more causing stress to her peers and staff. She will refuse to move to her chosen “safe place”. She has pulled other kids hair and thrown a water bottle and my colleague. Where do we draw the line between making allowances for her difficulties and applying some consequential sanction? It appears sanctions with consequences have NEVER been used for fear of escalating. But where do you draw the line? What if another pupil or staff member is more seriously hurt? Both children and parents have been incredibly tolerant but I’m not sure this will last and I can’t blame them. Any advice welcome.