I told my partner that the worst thing about me not being able to spend enough time with our children was the thought that he wasn't looking after them properly. ( By properly I mean doing stuff with them that I wish had the time to do like playing games, reading, cooking etc rather than watching telly, playing games on commputer/ds/phone and checking that aforementioned activities are age appropriate!) He got very angry with me and said that he is practically bringing them up on his own as I am never there - how dare I say he is not doing it properly. BUT he does spend most of his time on his laptop using the TV/Computer/DS as a babysitter. I am feeling that my comment was harsh<u> but fair</u> - I shut up when I saw how angry he was but I needed to vent. I am new to teaching and I love it but I feel like a **** mum. When I was a full and even part-time mum I know that I put more energy into looking after our children than he is at the moment. Now I feel like a **** wife and mother. But to be honest I am more worried about being a **** mum. Can't wait for the holidays.