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Discussion in 'Personal' started by Vince_Ulam, Mar 31, 2019.


In your experience, who are most likely to hold a grudge?

  1. Women

    19 vote(s)
  2. Men

    7 vote(s)
  1. Vince_Ulam

    Vince_Ulam Star commenter

    I try to hold as few as possible, they are tedious, and reserve them as a duty for those who have demonstrated practical enmity towards those for whom I care and against myself. Some people, however, seem to make them a personal hobby.

    Are grudges unavoidable in modern life, so crowded & competitive?
    Lalad likes this.
  2. lanokia

    lanokia Star commenter

    I have a grudge against four people who manipulated me on to capability ... But as I'm unlikely to ever see them again I don't really engage much with it.

    But the memory of their workplace bullying ... or attempts at it... does rankle.
    Morgelyn, lrw22, agathamorse and 3 others like this.
  3. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    What's a grudge?
    Lalad and chelsea2 like this.
  4. sparklesparkle

    sparklesparkle Established commenter

    I have a grudge against people who have grudges on TES.

    You disagree with them on an issue and they spend hours combing through your posts looking for something to report.
    Ezzie, marymoocow, needabreak and 7 others like this.
  5. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    Has anyone else's jaw dropped?
  6. Scintillant

    Scintillant Star commenter

    Send them an anonymous letter telling them their husband / wife is having an affair.

    Always a winner.
  7. Vince_Ulam

    Vince_Ulam Star commenter

    Yes, those people are weird.
  8. LondonCanary

    LondonCanary Star commenter

    Similarly I have grudges against those who betrayed me. As I will never see them again, I don't need to think about it. That said, news of a divorce once lightened my day.
  9. sparklesparkle

    sparklesparkle Established commenter

    "O wad some Pow'r the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us!"
  10. Bedlam3

    Bedlam3 Star commenter

    I have a grudge at the moment against my previous employer who chose to unfairly dismiss me, amongst other wrong doings, and I intend to make the most of it all through the proper channels of course amd in the utmost professional manner.
    Vince_Ulam likes this.
  11. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    Robbie Burns - sad testimony to the effects of usquabae consumption on diction.
    racroesus and Vince_Ulam like this.
  12. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    But getting to that stage is enjoyable and convivial.
  13. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    Unfortunately the following line is

    "See you Jimmy, yuuurma besh fren' in the whole f**kin' worl... bluuuuargh!!!'"

    I know because I had to study Tam 'o' Shanter in its original form for 'O' level. Or at least have it translated line by line by our English teacher while we wrote it all down for weeks on end, hence my grudge against Robbie Burns.
    bevdex, Ivartheboneless and racroesus like this.
  14. cassandramark2

    cassandramark2 Lead commenter

    I don’t hold grudges. I wait patiently for Karma to deliver the dish best served cold.
    When this happens, the effect can be very satisfying.
  15. primarycat

    primarycat Star commenter

    "To crush your enemies, to see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women."

    That's holding a grudge.
    bevdex and lanokia like this.
  16. George_Randle

    George_Randle Established commenter

    Genghis Khan?

    You had to watch your steppe when he was around.
  17. A_Million_Posts

    A_Million_Posts Star commenter

    Is this the TES equivalent of a subtweet?
    foxtail3 and primarycat like this.
  18. primarycat

    primarycat Star commenter

    Conan the Barbarian.
  19. Spiritwalkerness

    Spiritwalkerness Star commenter

    You have to put effort into holding a grudge. Why waste energy on a no-mark?
    bevdex, Jamvic, needabreak and 4 others like this.
  20. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

    Quite, it's like taking poison and expecting the other person to die... Let it go... And don't sing about it... Sheesh... DISNEY BLAH...

    As for karma it usually does kick in but by that time I have forgotton the person or incident, thus they are no longer empowered to influence my feelings or being, that's definitely more satisfying.

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