I recently applied for a promotion and received some fairly personal feedback. The employer said that the panel were satisfied that I’d demonstrated my ability to do the job, were impressed by my curricular expertise and could tell that my determination to succeed was clear, but that I needed to think about how my ambition was perceived by employers. A male colleague recently applied at the same institution and was given much more constructive feedback, pointing towards experiences he should demonstrate in future interviews. I can’t help feeling that a man would be far less likely to receive the type of personal feedback that I have received, and that they wouldn’t be made to feel ashamed about wanting to further their careers. I’d be interested to know if any other women have experienced similar feedback. It’s worth mentioning that I placed my absolute commitment to the students, the quality of their education and their life chances at the heart of my answers, and therefore feel that I proved I was in it for the ‘right reasons’.