My two siblings and I have long had a very difficult relationship with my mother. As a result, my brother has lived in the USA for 40 years, and I spent 12 years in the UK, returning last year. She is unscrupulous, aggressive, rude and bullying, has very few friends as a result of her behaviour. She has caused uncalculable damage to the three of us, especially my brother, who is a highly respected, compassionate oncologist. She had a fall last year, and has been unable to return to her large, multi-storied house. She is 88, semi-incapacitated and now resident in a rest home. We have all tried our best to help her sort her stuff - but she will have none of it. Her house, and her holiday home, are packed full of complete rubbish and stand empty, a target for thieves, rats and cockroaches. She phones me up and abuses me if I try to throw away rusty paint tins, piles of old newspapers, rags, plastic containers. She shouts at me if I visit, saying that I don't do anything to help her. My ex-husband has taken to visiting her, obviously trying to ingratiate himself with her. She is extremely wealthy, and he was really annoyed when I finally divorced him after 25 years of misery, saying that I had deprived him of his rightful inheritance and that he deserved to inherit something from her. He fires her up with gossip and lies about me, and about our children (from whom he is estranged). She is a willing audience. My siblings and I have tried our best to be supportive (my brother has been out from the USA twice since her fall last October). Nothing makes her happy, She is determined to be miserable and to hang on to her hatred of her kids. If the law had allowed, she would have killed us in our babyhood. She is vicious, cruel, vindictive and hateful. Old age is no excuse - she is the same nasty person she has always been - it's just that she now has more time to brood on her malice. With one stroke of her pen, she could ensure that all of her family, who are struggling financially, could be freed from the burdens and actually enjoy life, but she can't bear to part with anything to member of the family, even property from the family trust that goes back 150 years, and whose purpose was to ensure that the family was secure. She has spent most of that, and now is bitter because her nieces and nephews are financially secure, because her brother ensured that he invested his share wisely, leaving his children multi-millionaires. I'm not asking for advice or sympathy - just the opportunity to vent my feelings..thank you.