A friend of mine contacted me last week to invite me to his wedding. He and I have been friends for 13 years after we lived together in the few years after Id left uni. We lived in a house share and we all got along very well. He and I kept in touch afterwards and visited each other for maybe a few weekends a year. He always knew his fiancee since childhood and they finally got together as a couple about five years ago. She's really lovely and I'm really pleased they're getting married. They're both in their early forties and after a long battle they've had their first child. They moved to Switzerland about three years ago and we've not seen each other since then. The wedding is a saturday on a school weekend and is a seven hour drive from where I live (they're coming back to the UK to get married). It's an evening wedding that starts at 5pm. My partner can't come as he's away that weekend (he works out of the country quite a bit for work). I live by myself and find it quite hard to make ends meet. I extremely rarely go on holiday and when I do it's only to the next county, I cant afford to buy new clothes and really am struggling financially. I wouldn't know anyone else at the wedding. The thought of spending a great deal of money on a few hours when, realistically, I'll only speak to my friend for twenty minutes, if that, fills me with dread. Fourteen hours driving my battered old car by myself, hotel room by myself etc. Anyway, I replied and said that, because it was such a long drive and my partner can't come, would it be possible for us to visit him and his fiancee/wife in Switzerland for a weekend in the summer hols instead? Thinking that that way it could be my summer holiday and He replied saying he and fiancee were 'very disappointed' that I 'don't want to come' to their wedding, they are only planning on doing it once and that I could always get the train (at the cost of about £200 and the same amount of time sat by myself.) I got this email a week ago and I haven't replied yet. The tone of if it very curt, only a few lines, and signed 'best' rather than 'love.' He's clearly very peed off and I'm really upset about it. Do I take this as a signal that it's time for our friendship to come to an end? I know he won't understand the financial issue as he is minted and he is quite jet-setty and enormous travel doesn't phase him at all. Or do I grit my teeth and do it as I really don't want to upset him?