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Discussion in 'Senior Leadership Team' started by coco44, Jul 4, 2009.

  1. anon2799

    anon2799 New commenter

    Sorry to hear this.
    But, if it's making you feel better then well done you!
     
  2. becky70

    becky70 Occasional commenter

    Good luck, Coco, from an ex-class teacher who did the same as you! Life does get better once you get away from the situation.
     
  3. Hi Coco
    Been following you thread and i'm sorry you have been having a rough time.
    How did you get on with handing in your notice? When do you get to leave? I'm in a similar position, although not DHT ( thats not for me!)

     
  4. coco44

    coco44 New commenter

    OMG GUYS!!!!!!! I have an interview!!!!!!!!!!

    Its next wed and I am so worried because I have 1 hr to prepare for a presentation and I wont know the title til I get there ! eek!

    Please help...I am so excited but dont even kno where to start!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for alllll your support guys!!!!!!!
     
  5. anon2799

    anon2799 New commenter

    Brilliant news. Good luck.
    Chances are it will be something like moving the school from satisfactory to good - good to outstanding or improving L and T. All straightforward stuff.
     
  6. becky70

    becky70 Occasional commenter

    Good luck, Coco.
     
  7. Well done girl! Good luck with it!
     
  8. Coca, try not to let the whole issue get you down .

    I often think it's best to stick two fingers up and move on...your a good teacher!
     
  9. coco44

    coco44 New commenter

    Hi guys

    nothings changed. 3 interviews and still no job...they didnbt give me the job today because they were concerned about me leaving my post so soon. aaagggh
     
  10. At least you are getting the interview. It is a case of if the face fits, and they can't appoint you if they don't meet you. Think of your last experience and remember that it is important to get the right person for the job - for both your sakes. I wish you well and hope you can find something soon.
     
  11. I simply cannot believe this thread.
    "Force 6 people to go and make a positive comment before the end of term."
    What sort of ridiculous idiocy is that?
    It MUST be primary - this sort of thing is pretty hard to get away with in Secondary.

    Good luck in your applications - and never, ever cry in front of your boss. Tell him (assumption) where to shove his ridiculous bullying mechanisms, yes. But save your emotions for private or he wins.
     
  12. This is the first time I've been on this forum and I'm glad that I did. I am so sorry and frankly horrified that your experience has been so upsetting and affected your health. I'm currently sitting here with tears rolling down my face, off sick from work with anxiety, depression and work related stress. I'm experiencing similar circumstances and I really don't know what to do and where to go next. Reading your journey and the messages from fellow colleagues has made me realise that no matter how isolated and victimised I am feeling, there are genuinely lovely and supportive colleagues out there. I hope you find a school out there that truly appreciates your qualities and believes in you. Good luck!
     
  13. and PS. am logged on as a friend who pointed me here, hence why I'm not fibbing about my posts!!
     
  14. All the best to you too mac!
     
  15. coco44

    coco44 New commenter

    Hi
    Yup its primary, and mac am so sorry that you are going through a similar situation, its been a truly terrible time for me, but the people on here have been amazingly supportive and have been following my journey and have backed me all the way. In a way you guys have been a life line to me as its someone for me to turn to when things get too much. Its interesting as slowly people at school are backing me, but not those with any weight, and the aht is still a flipping nightmare. last week I told all of SLT I was looking for a new job, and she sat and smirked the whole way through, but surprisingly enough, later that week the other deputy came and was very supportive towards me, so that was good.
    So I am stuck there til summer. and I am feeling surprisingly ok about it, probably because I have perservered and finally managed to secure a whole school marking initiative I can lead on. And I am excited about it, and I am gonna use this opportunity to make my mark, regardless of how long it takes. It has taken almost a yr to break through, but the downtrodden coco is gonna have to go. I am going to be assertive from now on, however hard it is.

    I will keep you guys updated on my journey.

    much love coco x
     
  16. A couple of things you said made me think this was a hoax.For example, you spring cleaning the kitchen! Also the head has made a comment about having a presence in assembly. I would take this as a challenge, why not lead an assembly, these first 6 months you have to really put yourself out there and lead. It sounds like he wants someone who is demonstrating good `front of house` rather than appreciating good management skills. You have to stand and show him what you can do. Lead and bring in new initiatives, make subtle but effective changes and highlight these to him.
    You also said you just want jobs to do, you are not the HM`s PA, you have an active management role to play, perhaps you have to `make` those responsibilities within your role, use your initiative and enance current practices. Do you have a specialist area within your role? like SEF or pastoral care? Think back to why you wanted the job, what was your main reason for wanting the role and follow that through. and stay out of the kitchen, its not your job.

     
  17. just read your last reply, seems you took that initiative.
     
  18. coco44

    coco44 New commenter

    Hi Boyak

    Thanks for the post - I promise its not a hoax! I am a real life deputy going through a difficult journey, and this is my blog of my experiences...I promise I am real! Thanks for all your advice - been getting catty emails from the AHT all morning, way to start a new half term eh? Oh well I must and WILL rise above!
    Breaks nearly over...gotta dash...y5 maths awaits! :)

    Coco
     
  19. marymoocow

    marymoocow Star commenter

    Hope you are keeping those emails and printing them off as evidence. Her/his cover will be blown soon. Have you tried confronting the AHT about their behaviour and asking what their problem is? Sometimes bullies rely on victims being too scared and cant cope when finally confronted with their behaviour. I was bullied by my head and just letting him overhear accidently on purpose the words, bullying, intimidation and union, was enough for him to back off.
     
  20. coco44

    coco44 New commenter

    Hi everyone!
    Well, the saga continues.So I had a meeting with my head today, as he is my coach for Leadership Pathways, and I was talking to him about the leadership project I wanted to do, which he kept interrupting and trying to influence me! Anyway I was growing in confidence and feeling really good about things, when he changed the subject of the conversation, and started talking about the fact that I dont pronounce words properly as I drop the "t" at the end of words. I told him that that was my accent (as I have done before when he mentioned this) and he said it had nothing to do with regional accent and was about the annunciation of words, and that as a teacher I should model correct speech...which I feel I do! I asked him if he thought my accent was common, and he kept reiterating that it had nothing to do with that and that the only reason he was mentioning it was because he was trying to help me...it didnt feel like that though. I kept on telling him that these comments were beginning to give me a complex, make me feel self conscious and uncomfortable, and he didnt seem to care. I told him that in my opinion, at the moment, pronouncing my ts was the least of my worries, and that it wasnt going to make me a better teacher or leader, and he said "I beg to differ". I was flabbergasted...absolutely shocked.
    Why does he always try to knock me the second I am starting to feel more confident?
    Is he allowed to say things like this?
    He always is going on about my voice, but it used to be the volume, and now its the annunciation of words. English isnt even my first language for gods sake!

    What can I do about this?
     

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